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Marriage and the Bible VIII

[posted 10/19/19]

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Question #1:

My question concerning marriage what if your first spouse was pregnant on her wedding day through fornication and she did not tell you until after the wedding. Can I remarry ?

Response #1:

Good to make your acquaintance.

In my country, a person can only marry one at a time, so a divorce would have to come before any hypothetical remarriage – in terms of the laws of my country. So from the standpoint of doing what the state demands – something all believers are commanded to take into account as a matter of prime importance – only people who are legally single can marry. Also in my country, if a marriage is made under false pretenses, it can sometimes be annulled – which, legally speaking, means that the marriage never happened (again, I emphasize, legally). In this case too, the person is now single in the eyes of the law after the legal process has been completed and is legally free to remarry.

However, since you are asking this question of me (and this is a Bible teaching ministry), I am assuming what you really want to know is "does God want a person in this situation to do so?". That is to say, not "can I?" but "should I?".

First, I never give specific "yes/no" advice on this subject because there are always details – even in situations which are presented as straightforward – about which the third party (me) will have no clear idea. And when it comes to practical application of the truth of the Bible to complicated life situations, all of these hidden details are important – and in fact critical – in coming to the correct conclusion. What is going on in the hearts of the two people in question is probably the most decisive thing (and only the two involved can know that). Our Lord told the Pharisees that in fact the only acceptable excuse for divorcing someone who does not wish to divorce you is if that person has committed sexual indiscretion (Matt.19:9). Even so, divorce is characterized by our Lord as allowed by the Law even in such cases as stemming from "hardness of heart" (Matt.19:8), at least implying that forgiveness would often be the better course.

So when I discuss these things, I always try to present the biblical picture of "best advice" which, in essence, is as follows:

1) Are you single? Don't get married.

2) Are you married? Don't get divorced.

3) Did you get divorced? Don't get remarried.

4) Did you get remarried? Don't get divorced.

People "do what they do" in this life, and most often look for rationalizations and justifications for their actions. But if we really are putting the Lord Jesus Christ first in all we think, say and do, growing spiritually through His Word day by day, walking ever closer to Him through that truth and passing the tests that come to believers who are doing things His way, and, eventually, helping others do the same through the ministries He gives us, then all such questions always simplify in the glorious light of His presence in our lives. If we really are walking with Him and seeking His will, we will be led to know clearly what He wants us to do (as opposed to what we desire to do), and will blessed and much happier in doing things His way.

There are many "ins and outs" to this issue, so I will give you some links here to some pages to where other related issues are discussed:

Marriage and the Bible IV

Marriage and the Bible III

Marriage and the Bible II

Marriage and the Bible

Marriage "Matters"

No Grounds for Divorce?

A Conversation about Divorce and Remarriage

Jephthah's Daughter, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage

Christian Divorce and Remarriage

What about Christians who Remarry?

Divorce and Remarriage: What does the Bible say?

Marriage and the Bible VII

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #2:

 Hi Bob,

My friend said that it is not allowable for a Christian to be remarried under any circumstances. A Pastor who does marriage counseling completely disagreed with him. John MacArthur did a entire sermon on whether Christians can remarry and he said that they can according to scripture. My friend completely disagrees with that and went out of his way to prove it using Greek and exegesis.

My friend is a missionary and his wife is usually alone while he visits places like Uganda to preach the Gospel. I get the feeling that he may be having marital problems because he keeps mentioning the topic of divorce, but at the same time I feel that he wants to be faithful and stay married because they are both Christians (maybe). He cited 1 Cor. 7:15 and said that the word for "bondage" in the Greek is the term douloo, and it means to "make a slave of." He cited another passage which uses the same Greek word in Titus 2:3, which reads, "enslaved to much wine."

He further stated that according to the Bible, marriage is never viewed as slavery. And the "bondage," i.e., enslavement, never refers to a marriage union. If the unbeliever departs, then it's not the responsibility of the Christian. Also, the brother or sister is not enslaved to maintain a togetherness (he noted the allusion of 1 Cor. 7:5) at the expense of fidelity to the Lord. He then wrote that douloo (under bondage) in verse 15 is interestingly in a perfect tense form in the Greek NT, (dedoulotai). He wrote:

"The perfect tense denotes a present state resulting from past action. Its force here is this: "was not bound [past action] and is not bound [present state]." The sense of the verse thus is: Yet if (assuming such should occur) the unbeliever separates himself, let him separate himself: the brother or sister was not [before the departure] and is not [now that the departure has occurred] enslaved .... Whatever the "bondage" is, therefore, the Christian was not in it even before the disgruntled spouse left. But the saint was married (and is) to him, hence, the bondage is not the marriage!

Let the reader substitute the word "marriage" for "bondage," giving the full force to the perfect tense (i.e., "has not been married, and is not married") and the fallacy of viewing the bondage as the marriage itself will be apparent. First Corinthians 7:15 does not expand upon the Savior's teaching with reference to divorce and remarriage, as much as some wish that it were so. Note that some contend that the term chorizo is used in verse 15 of divorce. The word is related to choris which means "separately, apart, by itself." Chorizo simply means to "divide" or "separate" (cf. Rom. 8:35; Heb. 7:26; Philem. 15).

The term is generic, and thus may include divorce, as Matthew 19:6 indicates, but there is no indication that it means divorce in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 15 (though some lexicographers, leaving their areas of expertise and assuming the role of commentators, have so designated it).

Professor Lewis Johnson notes:

"It is true that the verb 'to depart' in the middle voice [it is middle in verse 15] was almost a technical term for divorce in the papyri ... This, however, really proves nothing here" (1962, 1240)."

Is his analysis of 1 Corinthians7:15 the correct interpretation? or is he using eisegesis?

God Bless!

Response #2:

I would say first that all believers are free not to get married in the first place. If married, they are free not to get divorced. If divorced, they are free not to get remarried. If remarried, they are free not to get divorced. In fact, maintaining one's status quo is generally the best policy as Paul makes clear in this cited chapter (1Cor.7:20). However, most Christians are incapable of remaining single and not falling into serious sin; so for them, it is "better to marry than to burn" (1Cor.7:9). But married people ALWAYS have problems as Paul also affirms in this chapter (1Cor.7:28).

As to your friend's analysis of 1st Corinthians 7:15, it is very hard to follow, frankly. Anytime an "exegetical treatment" with "analysis of Greek forms" results in the passage being harder to understand than a straightforward reading of the English suggests, that is sign of problems. I teach Greek for a living and I can tell you that I don't see how any of these conclusions follow. The text is very clear indeed: if an unbelieving spouse abandons the marriage, the believer is to consider himself or herself free. Naturally, remarriage thereafter would require an official dissolution of the marriage under whatever state authority it was contracted. Marriage, as I constantly have to point out, is not a "Christian institution" – marriage was designed by God for the entire human race, and the laws governing its legalities are established by the state wherein the believer happens to reside.

Regardless of what your friend or J. MacArthur or anyone else has to say, Christians who wish to divorce generally do so; Christians who wish to remarry generally do so. It's fine to be concerned about the details but there is so much false teaching out there these days that it would be better for most people who want to opine of this subject to remain silent. After all, we are all going to be evaluated for what we do, and while if we have gotten something wrong on the marriage front that is certainly an issue, teaching something not true is among the worst possible things that a person could do. This is a large topic upon which, again, I have written a great deal. I will give you some links which will lead to many others if interested in the details:

Marriage "Matters"

Marriage and the Bible II

Love, Marriage, and Divorce: Marriage and the Bible III

Marriage and the Bible IV

Marriage and the Bible V

Marriage and the Bible VI

Marriage and the Bible VII

Yours in Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #3:

Dear Dr. Luginbill,

I found your website in a desperate search for guidance on remarriage. I have been haunted by those who list all the reasons I need to divorce to repent. I was married and divorced at a young age. There was no biblical reason to divorce. After college and military service I met the love of my life. She was also divorced (due to abuse) and had a child. We have been happily married for 12 years and have two sons together as well as my stepdaughter. I recently came to true faith after a life of false belief. From the moment I learned of our sin of remarriage adultery I have been unable to sleep. I have been slowly dying inside. The argument of "new creation" (for me) and that she was a victim of abuse never quite cut it as excuses. The divorce to repent folks have caused me to lose the joy and peace I had as a new believer. After reading your answer to a question, that was very loving and understanding I might add, from a divorce to repent advocate I might have peace. Your description of the situation of marriages like mine and guidance on grace and mercy of our God has helped immensely. The thought that has been imprinted on me that we are living in perpetual adultery and that my wife and I need to destroy our family or go to hell has crushed me. Your statement on God's grace and mercy has helped me so much. All we can do is ask for forgiveness and trust in His mercy. To divorce to repent would bring so much devastation I'm sure it would only please the devil.

I hope this email finds you well. My wife went to school at Louisville. Your CV is very impressive and I can tell you are an amazing and educated man by your writings. Once again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. As a new believer I couldn't understand why our loving and forgiving God would have us break up our home to correct past sins. Now I believe He does not. He wants a repentant heart but not a broken second marriage. You have helped us so much.

With love in Christ,

Response #3:

It's great to make your acquaintance.

I never cease to be amazed – appalled is more like it – by the number of vicious groups and individuals out there who claim to be acting in the Name of Jesus Christ. What person could even be a Christian and tell another Christian to ruin his/her life, ruin his/her happy marriage, ruin the youth of his/her children? But it seems there is never any shortage of unbelievers masquerading as believers. That has always been the case.

Beware of dogs, beware of evil workers, beware of the mutilation!
Philippians 3:2 NIV

Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is set on earthly things.
Philippians 3:19 NIV

But even more so is this the case here in Laodicea on the cusp of the Tribulation:

The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron.
1st Timothy 4:1-2 NIV

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.
2nd Timothy 3:1-5 NIV

The utter, shameless, arrogant self-righteousness of the people who teach this drivel and pretend that it is from God makes my blood boil. I thank God that you had the spiritual common sense not to believe such lies. I do understand how that you felt depressed hearing such tripe. Guilt is the devil's ace trump. That is the emotion he manipulates more than any other in the case of good Christians trying to do the right thing. After all, none of us has been perfect our whole lives. So instead of letting us confess whatever sin we have committed and move on with our lives for the Lord, the devil – and those doing his bidding – just love to try and scratch off the scab, poor salt in the wound, and get us "itching". Nothing ever good comes from that – except in cases such as yours where the result is that the sheep's clothing is pulled off of the wolf and the person in question goes on to serious spiritual growth as a result. Putting such false guilt to death is all about having the truth, believing the truth, and living the truth. The only thing about that is that one cannot deal with lies and the world and the flesh and the evil one – all of the sources of opposition down here on earth – on a case by case basis and expect to live the best possible life for the Lord. The best policy is spiritual growth pursued across the board every day. That way, we grow strong and mature in the Lord and are ready for anything – and also get to the point of helping others be ready too. That is why Ichthys is here (and I encourage you to make use of all the offerings available at the site).

Yours in Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #4:

Good day,

I have questions regarding divorce and remarriage. Perhaps your input regarding 2 videos. Also, what exactly constitutes a marriage? Is it one's first sexual experience? I look forward to your rely.

Response #4:

I have a number of postings on this and I will give you the links below.

I could not make myself get through these videos (I have a weak stomach when it comes to trampling on the truth).

Marriage is an institution which God invented for the entire human race. It is a CIVIL institution, meant for all people, not just for those who are believers. A marriage between a man and a woman is what the state says it is, civil authority being constituted by God (e.g., Rom.13:1-7). If a man or a woman is married, then that man or woman is married. If a man or a woman has not married, then they are not married. It seems ridiculous to have to say that, but videos and other fly-by-night internet "experts" make it necessary to do so.

What the Bible says about marriage in a nutshell (for scriptures, see the links):

1) Better to stay single.

2) But if you do marry, better to stay married.

3) But if you do divorce, better not to remarry.

4) But if you do remarry, better not to divorce.

The last point is usually the operative one in all such discussions, because there are in fact individuals out there in cyberspace who are ACTUALLY counseling married people to divorce (because for some reason or other the marriage doesn't meet their legalistic standards). The Bible gives no excuse for divorce except for adultery, even in cases where it is clear that the two individuals involved were not concerned with what the Bible had to say about all this when they got married. Influencing people who are married to get divorced when they otherwise would not do so, especially from self-righteous motives, may not be the most evil thing in the world . . . but in my opinion it makes the top ten short-list.

Is remarriage adultery? If a man divorces his wife for no other reason than selfishness and forces her out of his house, then marries another, that ACT of remarriage is an ACT of adultery. But in the passages in question, our Lord does NOT tell the Pharisees to divorce their new partners. The wrong they have done is the wrong they have done. The sin they have committed is the sin they have committed. What about sin? Can it be forgiven? If it could not, we would all be on our way to hell. Every sin was paid for by Jesus Christ and is forgiven (in the case of believers) in the same way: confession (1Jn.1:9).

Sex outside of marriage is wrong, illicit and sinful. And believers need to deal with all sin the same way: confess to the Lord. Mind you, we never "get away" with anything. Christ paid the penalty, and we need to always keep that signal fact in mind. We are forgiven when we confess, but our Father deals with us as sons and daughters, and what father would not tan the hide of a son who did something very foolish and very dangerous? Sex outside of marriage (and porneia of all sorts) is very dangerous – which is why we are told to "flee" it (1Cor.6:18) . . . but it is NOT "marriage". Marriage is marriage.

Feel free to write me back about any of the above. Here are those links:

Marriage and the Bible VII

Divorce and Remarriage: What Does the Bible Say?

Christian Divorce and Remarriage II

More on Divorce and Remarriage

Marriage "Matters"

Marriage and the Bible II

Love, Marriage, and Divorce: Marriage and the Bible III

Marriage and the Bible IV

Marriage and the Bible V

Marriage and the Bible VI

Marriage and the Bible VII

Yours in our dear Lord and Savior Jesus Christ,

Bob L.

Question #5:

Hi Bob,

A lady who has issues with her husband said: "the Bible says a husband can divorce his wife, if she commits adultery, but why is there not forgiveness for the wife in that instance? That always confused me a little."

I couldn't find an answer to this and needed your help. Thanks!

God Bless,

Response #5:

Divorce is not mandatory for infidelity. Infidelity only provides a legitimate reason for divorce on the part of the offended party, husband or wife. Forgiveness is always an option, but that is the province of the one with something to forgive (not for the rest of us to weigh in on). I can certainly imagine (and have seen) situations where continuing in such a marriage – especially after multiple offenses – is not a good idea; but there are cases where "one mistake" is never repeated and the couple manages to piece the marriage back together.

In Jesus our dear Savior,

Bob L.

Question #6:


Since we last communicated by email a couple years ago, sin continues to increase in both the world and in the church as adulterous remarriages are allowed in churches and many pastors are themselves living in adultery this way.

It is a ministry of reconciliation for God joined spouses to get back together, leaving an adulterous marriage for the wife of one's youth. You quoted Deuteronomy 24:1-4, which Jesus declared was given for the "hardness of your hearts." Old Testament commands must be understood now in light of the New Testament. We do not forbid people to eat pork for example, which was not allowed under the Old Testament. Clearly a passage Jesus declared was given for the "hardness of their hearts" is all the more not to be enforced under the New Testament.

Are you falling for other Hebrew root heresies going back to such things as requiring circumcision and 7th day Sabbath also? There is lots of "picking and choosing" going on these days among "Christian Scholars" regarding what they want to enforce out of the Old Testament, and Deut 24:1-4 is a favorite to justify the sin of remaining in an adulterous marriage and refusing to reconcile with the wife of one's youth. Hard hearted people don't want to reconcile, and will go to that passage just like the Pharisees of Jesus day to try to justify their serial marriages. Don't be deceived: adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven.

Thank you for thinking on these things,

Response #6:

I haven't written about this subject for some time, so it's odd that you've chosen to write me about it now.

It's also clear that you haven't actually read carefully anything I've written, since your arguments are directed against legalistic and anti-scholastic false teachings, and this ministry couldn't be farther from either of those misguided points of view.

You seem only to remember that when you wrote me before I called you to account for counseling Christians to get divorced – because in YOUR eyes their marriages did not count. I pointed out to you with scripture that you were assuming the prerogative of God in so doing, denying forgiveness which He does provide and commanding some actions which He does not command and others which He does forbid. So on top of setting yourself up as someone who ruins other people's lives to satisfy your own self-righteous and non-biblical view of "what is right", you are setting yourself up against the Lord in a most arrogant and dangerous fashion.

I really think, therefore, that this is a conversation which you should be having with the Lord, not with me.

Question #7:


Thanks for your articles. I've read all of the marriage related articles more than once, and while I agree with your reasoning, I still struggle with guilt and fear because I am remarried. I'm not sure what to do to help this, but all I desire is to be right with God and know how to proceed and what to think about my relationship with Him.

I don't want to assume anything. And yet everyone has a different view on this topic. But it is vitally important, because I don't want to lose my relationship with God for eternity. Even members of my own church have differing views. Most of the more faithful men I confide in agree with your view in general, and yet I still have a surprising amount of people say i'm in sin, even though I've asked sincerely for forgiveness of any part I had in the divorce/remarriage situation, and I'm trying my best to follow God and know what to do.

I just sometimes feel fear and loneliness, but in Christ I believe I should have peace and not fear death or men. I'm just very hurt and confused. I continue onward loving my second wife the best I can and helping my ex-wife the best I can, especially for my son's sake. But I can't rid myself of fear and guilt completely. Most days I'm fine. Some days I'm not. Today is a not day.

Response #7:

Good to hear back from you.

First thing to observe: the Christian life is not to be lived in "guilt and fear" and nothing done out of those two negative emotions is going to be good.

Beyond all argument, David was a greater believer than anyone we are likely to meet in this life. And it's also clear that what he did in committing murder and adultery was far worse than anything you are feeling afraid or guilty about. And David was disciplined by the Lord, severely so. But he was disciplined as a child the Lord loves – and He loves us all (Heb.12:1ff.). David didn't give up. When confronted with his sin, he confessed it . . . and THEN he moved on. He knew, you see, that while there would be discipline, there would also be blessing, and the Lord surely blessed him, wonderfully so, in spite of the hard times he faced. David also knew something very important for all Christians to keep in mind: you CANNOT change the past. You cannot go back. This life is not a game of checkers where you go back and change the last move. Once you have done whatever it is you have done it is done. So we have to make the best of the situation we are in right NOW and learn to turn our back on the things done in the past. If you have confessed whatever sin you may believe you have committed (and we all sin daily), then you have been forgiven. That is what God has told us (e.g., 1Jn.1:9; cf. Ps.51:1ff.). Failing to accept the forgiveness we have, paid for by the precious blood of Christ, is an insult to the Lord. Jesus died for our sins. Every one of them. If we confess them, we are forgiven. Failing to accept that truth is an affront to the cross. So please throw your guilt overboard. If you have done anything worthy of discipline, the Lord is more than able to take care of that. He does not need your help. And He will continue to bless you as He blesses all the children He loves so much, especially if you pull out of this unhealthy preoccupation with the past and instead start looking forward to a good reward at the judgment seat of Christ (link), based on carrying your cross daily, growing, applying the truth, and serving the Church of Jesus Christ as you have been called to do (in whatever capacity the Lord has for you).

It's important to remember that the truth is the truth, regardless of how you may feel. You can feel good about it or bad about it, but how you or I feel means nothing. That is something Christians who want to advance spiritually in this life need to learn. Peace and joy and the hope that supports them are not automatic. Experiencing them requires our free will faith engaging with the truth we know, believing it and applying it to our life circumstances in faith in order to for these virtues to function correctly. If we know that God is omnipotent, if we know that He has promised to deliver us, if we know that there is nothing man can do to us if He doesn't allow it, that is all well and good. But if in spite of this knowledge we panic and give into fear and guilt and start complaining when the Egyptian army has us pinned against the Red Sea, then this knowledge is near worthless. Knowledge has to become "full knowledge" (epignosis), and that only happens when we believe it. Likewise, the only way to apply the truth we've learned and believed is by doing so through faith. You know you are forgiven, but do you believe it? You know that the Lord loves you, but do you believe it? You know that your present wife is a great blessing to you, but are you willing to trust the Lord that this will all work out in spite of any mistakes you've made in the past – because that blessing comes from Him?

You say that you believe the truth of the teaching of this ministry regarding remarriage, namely, that even if sin was committed, God forgives sin, and that going backward is not an option – for one reason, because of the selfish and self-righteous collateral damage it does. Your present wife would no doubt be devastated. And consider this: by agonizing over this and not being happy you are penalizing her in a most unjust way. She is your wife and is entitled to a devoted husband who is not consumed by second thoughts or guilt or fear. You married her. Make the best of what you have. The Lord deals with us where we are – not where we were. For good or bad, we are where we are. There is no going back. And the Lord did not even tell the Pharisees who had with the most foul motives divorced and remarried to divorce the new wife and marry the old. Would they have been forgiven if they had accepted Him as Savior? Of course. But there still would have been no going back.

In this entire matter you have behaved yourself in the most honorable way possible. We cannot change the past. But we CAN ruin the present and the future by morbid fixation on the past. Please do not destroy yourself. The Lord died for you. The Lord has forgiven you. Accept the truth of what He has taught you and forgive yourself. And move on.

One last thing. If you make a habit of asking other people's opinions about the teachings of scripture, you'll never get anywhere. No doubt you'll always be able to find at least a few who are on "the other side" of whatever issue you are investigating. No Christian has the ability – or the right – to play referee on every point of scripture. True, you have the right to believe or not whatever you are taught. But only what is true can help you; and only what is true and is ALSO believed will ever be of any benefit to you (as exemplified by the good teaching you have received from this site but have been reluctant to believe). To grow, every Christian needs not only to be an avid Bible reader but also an avid Bible student, sitting under a teaching ministry which has been tested and found to be a tree producing good fruit. You are welcome here any time. I also recommend "Bible Academy" (link). But the Smorgasbord technique never works out. Find the right place for you and stick with it.

The latest major posting I emailed you about earlier is apropos of all these matters: BB 6A: Peripateology: The Study of the Christian Walk.

In Jesus Christ our Savior who paid the entire price for all of our sins.

Bob L.

Question #8:

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. It has been an absolutely tremendous struggle. I really do believe everything you are saying is true. And that is why I continue as I am. The challenge has always been this...what if?

There are things I've been wrong about, and there are many people who seem faithful and knowledgeable who believe I would be in perpetual sin so long as I remain married. While I don't believe that is a biblical idea, there are some compelling arguments. I have read and studied a lot. My only, singular concern is my eternal salvation in this matter (and my wife's). If I'm wrong, do I face eternity without God? So I simply want to be absolutely sure I'm not wrong. Hence the studying and questions.

The challenge is that of all topics, this seems to be one of the most divided. So how can I be sure? Well, I know I must pray. I know I must seek God's will. But beyond that, it is very challenging when you have strong guilt and fear. I don't believe that God's forgiveness is what I doubt. It is more the idea that someone who continues to rebel against God's will is biblically shown to not receive His forgiveness. Whereas if they turn back to Him and heed His will they are restored. So my concern is always, if perpetual adultery exists, then I'm continuing to rebel and thus why would God forgive me? If it doesn't exist, then I absolutely believe God can forgive the sins involved.

So I struggle to determine that for sure. All my logic, study, closest brothers in Christ, etc. Seem to indicate that I should continue as I am. I feel I have definitely repented the best I can and am trying to live a life worthy of His calling. But I simply sometimes have that "what if I'm wrong?" thought. Eternity isn't worth anything on this earth. Including a wife. But everything about the idea of separation seems anti-Christ-like. It doesn't solve anything, and it would hurt everyone involved now. It seems absurd to me to try and reunite with an exwife who has denounced God, lives a sinful lifestyle, etc. And yet the idea of Hosea's story lingers in my mind. And perhaps Herod or even David and Michal. But those at least seem to be unique situations to me.

Anyhow, maybe I'm just talking out loud my thoughts. But I really do appreciate your help. If I could go back and change things I would have tried harder. And yet I'm blessed with a faithful, amazing wife now. Also, just for the record, I'm very aware of what I could cause my wife to feel with all of this. While we are completely open and discuss everything, I do not constantly bring this up with her. These are exclusively emotions I myself feel and struggle with. And most days I'm completely content. I simply have times where doubt creeps in as to whether my understanding is wrong. So I pray to God, like David, to give me clean hands and a pure heart. I pray He never gives up on me, and that I may never give up. Every knee will bow before Him. I just pray I will bow in gladness and not regret. I do my absolute best to trust, as you said, that if I'm wrong He will change things, or else give me the strength to continue as I am and not make stupid mistakes.

What other option do I have other than to trust He will lead me? I can't use that as a excuse to sin, but how would I even hope to stop sinning to begin with without His help? We are clearly not capable of being perfected without Him. That much is incredibly obvious. So I will continue to learn and grow. I simply want confidence in my relationship with Him. I can vouch to anyone considering divorce to be absolutely sure first, because this is not something I would wish upon anyone. :-/ Oddly enough, I feel that perhaps I know David a little better because of this. As though I have some small insight into his struggles. I'd rather that be the case without the divorce issue, but I'd like to think God will use this situation, whether sinful or not, as a means to help others somehow. That everything might work to His glory.

Response #8:

"What if?" Believe or don't believe. That is what life is all about. Any principle of truth can be challenged by "but what if it's NOT true?" If you live your life like that, you will believe nothing. The Spirit testifies to the truth, and from what I hear, He is telling you to believe. But you hesitate. Whose fault is that? Believe or don't. But you are responsible for your choice. And you HAVE to believe someone. Either you believe the Spirit and the truth . . . or you believe your emotions, the evil one and the evil-influenced individuals who tell you otherwise. It's not much of a choice, in my opinion, but it is one you have to make . . . for yourself.

Do you believe that God wants to see you in hell? Do you believe that God wants you to ruin another person's life? Do you believe God is a legalistic monster who is going to destroy you for making a mistake? If that is the sort of God and the sort of "truth" you want to give yourself over to, I certainly want no part of it. Maybe people who go down that road can somehow be saved (God, the REAL God, is amazing) . . . but they are risking their eternal security by dabbling in lies.

Don't you believe that God has forgiven you (whatever there was to forgive when you confessed it)? If you don't, you "make Him out to be a liar" (1Jn.1:9-10).

Compelling arguments? The devil is very persuasive because he knows how to play on our emotions. You are afraid – that is not an indication of good thinking. You feel guilty – also an indication of going down the wrong path.

You want to be perfect? Then you should never have been born. You are in this world. You have made mistakes. OK. Who has not? But making even BIGGER mistakes will not wipe out the previous ones. If you give yourself over to false teaching, that is a huge mistake. If you divorce your wife, that is an unconscionable thing to do, and you will be disciplined for it. If you think, EVEN FOR A MOMENT, that God is pleased by you doing these horrible things, then you are not only blaspheming Him in your heart, but you are also giving yourself over to a life of works-righteousness, relying on what YOU do and not what God has done. What has God done? The Father judged all of your sins in Jesus Christ – the Lord died for you, for all your sins. You have thus been forgiven when you were saved and forgiven whatever you've done since when you confessed. But that is not good enough for you? You want to add your works to the picture? All you do by that is "trample under foot the Son of God" and "regard as unclean the blood of the covenant" and "insult the Spirit of grace" – things which bring on severe punishment.

A little advice: trust the Lord. Accept His forgiveness. Glory in His grace. Thank Him for what He has done for you and for what He has given you. Look forward and NEVER backward. You can never make up for anything – but, praise God!, Jesus has died for everything. AND put those false witnesses with their "compelling arguments" out of you life. Anyone who would tell you to divorce your wife out of self-righteous arrogance is a snake in the grass and will only be a source of further misery if you continue to have contact with them.

And remember. As long as you are "Baal dancing between two opinions", you are doing damage to yourself AND your wife and family. "If the LORD is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him." (1Ki.18:21).

"What other option do I have other than to trust He will lead me?" That is indeed the question, and you know the answer. Know this: He IS leading you. Be pleased to follow Him, and leave the false friends, false doctrines and false feelings in the dust.

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior.

Bob L.

Question #9:

I do believe Him. That's why I'm married. And it seems illogical to me to divorce again. That's what I was saying myself. That's why I haven't. I just take God very seriously. I know he wants what is best. Is it wrong to want to make sure I understand His word correctly? That's all I believe is my reason for sometimes doubting. I need to learn as I have been. Study as I have been. And I've purposely been surrounding myself with the most faithful men I can.

I don't want to be tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine, but that also doesn't mean I'll understand everything right away. I'm praying and studying, and as I said I do believe these things are true. And I appreciate your help. I have thought about accepting forgiveness completely or it is insulting to God. And I pray for strength. I'm sorry if I'm struggling. That's why I'm seeking truth constantly and praying for His guidance. This isn't a daily thing, it's just something that comes up, and I don't want it to. I'm very confident God is loving and faithful. I just want to be the same back.

Response #9:

No, it's not wrong to seek answers.

But when you've got them, and your sure about it, it's time to take the next step.

[There is] a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away.
Ecclesiastes 3:6 NIV

From what you've shared with me, it's high past "time".

In Jesus,

Bob L.

Question #10:

Well I really do appreciate all of your emails. And I do take to heart what you're saying. I pray you don't think of me in a bad light. My only desire is to do the will of God. And I pray I will never give up. God is amazing, only He is the ultimate power, the ultimate love. I think my faith is stronger than I might "think" sometimes. We lost a dear friend tonight to a car accident. He was one of the most faithful, loving men I've ever known. He was an elder at our congregation. It hurts greatly, but yet I still feel happy knowing he is going to be with God. I have a joy despite the sadness. I would ask that you pray for his family. His wife is very faithful and asked him as he was barely responsive on a ventilator if he was ready to go home to God. And he was. I'm so grateful to have known him.

I'll never forget we were discussing this topic one time, and I asked what he thought of the idea people believe that you need to repent by divorcing your second wife. He responded by saying that was the most absurd thing he had ever heard. haha. And this is coming from a faithfully married man who had never been divorced, so he had no personal agenda or reason to say something like that to justify anything he had done. I will miss him greatly, but I'm so happy he will experience pain no more.

But thank you again for the responses. And for the website. I can honestly say that the days I feel weak sometimes, I have made myself go to your website and read the articles again to reinforce what I know is true. And reading them helps me to remember why I know it's true. That is a very special thing, and I thank you for writing them. I hope you haven't felt I am a poor Christian for experiencing these things. Like David, I think I have felt grief over my sins. But like Paul said, and you reiterated, I must forget the past and look forward to what lies ahead. To Christ be the glory always.

Response #10:

You're most welcome.

It seems that most Christians today are tortured by something or other in their past. The R/x for that in each and every case is spiritual growth and faith in the truth.

Thanks for sharing this about your late friend – now THAT is what I call "spiritual common sense". As requested, I said a prayer for his family.

Keep fighting the good fight, my friend – and thanks for your encouraging words.

In Jesus our dear Savior,

Bob L.

Question #11:

Hello again!

This very morning I found an answer to a similar email I’d written to David Servant last year, but I’d missed the answer from his team. This website lays it all out clearly and addresses the status of remarriage adultery, being tame not naaph.

I’m not sure whether this opens up allowable remarriage, I don’t think it does, but it allows recovery from the sin of remarriage and I feel relief. God is so kind to me.

Thank you again. I see you don’t take gifts, but you most certainly have my prayers, in honour of your work for the Lord. I shall be diving into all you’ve written and hope to grow and finally move on in my walk with the Lord

God bless you

Begin forwarded message:

Dear Bob, if I may call you that,

I am a Christian. I don’t know whether I counted as one since my teens, because I had a long period of falling away since, or whether my rekindled faith was entirely new in recent years. It’s certainly much more real to me now. During my wilderness wanderings I married twice, both times to unbelievers. It became something I knew I had to confess and repent of, and I knew peace until I came across the Divorce to Repent people online. Then I fell apart.

I’ve read through the answers you give here and feel encouraged, but then my overactive questioning brain, that wants to nail everything down to make sure I’m not going to hell, chimes in again. It is agony. Strangely, the way you note that the bible is not altogether categorical on this subject is encouraging too, because that acknowledges hope in the mystery that is the mercy and the justice of a God, and how different we all are.

The tone of Divorce to Repent people can be very condemning. They seem to regard a divorce and remarriage as adultery and bigamy and not recognise that the first marriage is over. As a result, they regard each sexual event between a remarried couple as further and continuing adultery, which would put us firmly outside God’s kingdom, 1 Cor 6.

Somewhere you make a distinction between an affair on one hand, with a hardened heart in being able to continue doing that, and on the other, a second marriage as a mistake, a one off sin, when it is contracted, but not with ongoing sinful complications.

When Jesus says that, without porneia, those entering a second marriage ‘commit adultery’ is that some special Greek tense that makes it clear it’s a single event rather than ongoing?

You say that the sin of adultery is in contracting the second marriage, not in the continuing sexual relationship it implies. The DtR people include everything, ongoing as sin by naturally assuming the new marriage means sex and therefore the whole relationship stands condemned. They deny the divorce has happened. I hope your distinction is right. Would Jesus need to say anything other than ‘marries another’ to imply sex happens? Is he talking about sex or about a contract? So I worried some more.

Then you said, in the Jephthah page, “As I have said before, marriage is a civil institution designed by God for the entire human race. As long as a brother or sister is operating within the laws of the state, it is really none of our business, even if we have grounds to question their application of scripture. And not only that – once a marriage has been contracted, it is a marriage, so that from that point forward all of our speculation is fruitless and really only so much gossip. “

That made me feel a bit better. Am I trying to make marriage between people, (as opposed to between Christ and his Church) into some mystical thing in God’s eyes that can never end in this life? I think I respect it as such, so Yes I think so. Jesus puts it so masterfully, not saying you can divorce for porneia, but that if you do and remarry with that reason, you are not committing adultery. I do wonder whether porneia does end it, since it uniquely qualifies as the exception. I remember you don’t think so but there is something so special about it, since the corollary is that sex belongs inside marriage.

It is helpful that you point out we live under civil law now and follow its arrangements, ie we are not under a Hillel arrangement so our divorce was legal, even if God may not have approved. Jesus said not to part those God had joined together, so we have to assume it’s possible to do so, or there’d be little point in his saying it.

But the concern for some is that a divorce made without porneia isn’t scripturally legal now and so the first marriage still exists, in God’s eyes. I hope the woman at the well shows us God does acknowledge the possibility of serial marriages, whatever he thinks about them. Does God join us or do we do the joining and he witnesses, and approves -the first marriage at least.

Please can you clarify the distinction between the D to R scenario and the definite existence of the second contracted marriage after a legal divorce nowadays? Why do they say the divorce and second marriage don’t really exist? And the point that the adultery is in the act of making the contract, not in living together in the estate of a new marriage, as they maintain.  These two questions are the crux of my pain.

If adultery is a continuous sin then repenting of it but staying put is cynical and won’t please God a bit! So fear of hell drives people out of their marriages. I’ve heard of people who have done this.

I feel some hope I can get on with feeling forgiven, if only I can understand and internalise why they are wrong about the continuation of the first marriage. I need this feeling of tension and fear to ease, it’s making me so ill.

I do pray you can help me with this. I’m not, I hope, being legalistic, just that I’ve drilled down to where I think the problem lies.

You bless us so with your full answers. Thank you so much for your work, your time, and your compassion. Marriage does help us in life, you know, though I get your point. My husband, although not even a believer, to compound my guilt, is so pleased, supportive and generous in all I want to do at church. I am greatly blessed, I can’t help but think so! I think some Romans 8:28 has happened in my life, and God has shown me what human love is.

God bless you, and thank you

Response #11:

Good to hear from you again – and thanks for all your kind and encouraging words.

Recently, a correspondent troubled by the same issue sought the counsel of a man who was an elder in his church, spiritual wise, and never divorced: "I asked what he thought of the idea people believe that you need to repent by divorcing your second wife. He responded by saying that was the most absurd thing he had ever heard."

That is a "spiritual common sense" answer. The legalists who are finding joy in torturing other people who made this particular mistake in the past are not without sin (1Jn.1:5-10); yet they want to destroy others for a sin they claim never to have committed. However, our Lord ALSO affirms that mental adultery is the same as adultery. And I guarantee you that none of these individuals has tried to come up with a list of all the individuals they have violated through lusting after them, then track them down and make amends and confess. No. If they are honest about their sinfulness, they will have confessed it to the Lord and attempted to stay away from such wrong-doing going forward. And that is the way these issues that you broach – to the extent that they are sinful – are also to be handled according to the truth of scripture: confess and move on. There is no going back in this life. And going back out of fear and guilt to satisfy the Pharisaical teachings of legalists whose mean-spirited contempt for the lives of others makes me doubt their salvation is about the worst mistake I can think of.

Look. We are all sinners. We have all sinned. None of us has ever gotten away with anything because the Lord is perfect and His discipline is perfect. But we are also forgiven when we confess, even though that does not mean that therefore we are let up from the discipline immediately or have the consequences of our actions removed. It DOES mean, however, that we can be joyful in our salvation, move forward spiritually with the Lord in peace, and set our hope on the resurrection and our eternal reward: that is the plan of God for us individually, no matter where we find ourselves "today". The greatest damage listening to these lies and fretting over these issues does – assuming one is not stupid enough to try and go back and "fix things" – is precisely in that it robs a person of peace and joy, and short-circuits spiritual growth, progress and production. So I am very angry about this false teaching and those who are proffering it; my anger means nothing, but I shudder to think what the Lord has in store for these people.

We can parse the legal issues inside and out but it all comes to the same place. Have I sinned? Then I confess – and I repent of my past behavior purposing not to go back "there" ever again (wherever "there" is). And then I forget the past and move on, doing my best to learn about the Lord, walk with Him and serve Him "today", "as long as it is called 'today' ". There is no fixing the past, and really no peace or joy in parsing it endlessly. Being uncertain about sin is OK. I would confess anyway. Sin is a deep dark ocean that is much more extensive than most people have any idea. The Lord knows that – of course. He knows our hearts. If we would come back to Him with all our heart, He is ever happy to have us. Once we do, there is no point in looking back over our shoulders. This is like trying to cross a major freeway at rush hour on foot while looking back at the curb we stepped down to see how it looks now – we are bound to get run over by what we are NOT looking at.

I realize I've answered these emails head-on in concept rather than in detail – because you seem to me to have found the places where the details are discussed, and because I don't want the most important point to get lost in them here.

I truly hope and pray for you peace (and have been doing so). Thank you for your prayers as well, my friend!

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #12:

Dear, dear Bob, thank you!

I am feeling better, lighter, but amazed at the habitual pathways in my mind, licking at my mental margins, and then a woosh of adrenaline because I don’t quite catch myself in time. Still a bit of a mental tightrope! I’ve already forgotten the details needed to reassure myself, but I’m just refusing to think about it for now, confident it’s Ok. I will, when I’ve calmed down from the constant sense of panic, or denied panic, to carefully document it and all the “yes, buts” I tend to come up with, and make myself a booklet of reassurance to clobber this when it raises its head. Because it might for a while till I get used to this wonderful Joy!

Their logic was seductive. “It’s adultery, you’re still there, therefore you won’t get to heaven.” Terrifying! So strong that I’d keep coming back to it. I’m getting old, not helped by stress, and I couldn’t remember all the threads of reassurance people were offering, and when people said ‘just think God loves you’ that didn’t satisfy the logic, and I don’t yet know the Word well enough to find all the help there is for me. I’m working on that!

I hope not to bother you over this again! I think I may actually have written to you before this . It’s been a burden a long time, perhaps 5 years! Please pray I get my feet under me and get stronger in the Lord, and indeed physically, as I am struggling the at least 3 hormones seriously out of whack, and early stages of kidney disease, and now breathlessness and inability to exercise. All the adrenaline has not helped!

Do you rate the “tame / naaph” website?

Thank you again

In Christ

Response #12:

I prefer not to weigh in on other people's ministries – unless it's a case of warning believers off.

I read this in the Bible:

"For the LORD God of Israel says
That He hates divorce;"
Malachi 2:16a NKJV

And this:

Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1st Corinthians 7:3-5 NKJV

Since divorce is something God hates, and since depriving one's marriage partner is not allowed, how could anyone who reads the Bible imagine either that divorce is to be undertaken or celibacy adopted in the absence of divorce . . . as these foul groups teach? It's precisely and directly the opposite of what the Bible says – in addition to being antithetical to the biblical principles of forgiveness, mercy, grace, etc. What it is instead is a sick, twisted legalism that purports to be biblical but instead has nothing to do with the Bible.

There are many verses in the Bible which, if taken out of context near and far (i.e., what is being said where the passage occurs and what it means in the Bible overall) have the potential of plunging guilt-ridden people into paroxysms of self-destruction (you wouldn't believe how many emails I've received about Hebrews 6:4-6, for example). And here are these foul individuals pushing that process along! But doesn't the Lord condemn mental adultery (Matt.5:28)? And doesn't He say to cut off the offending member (Mk.9:43-47)? When these individuals get around to actually following this advice in repentance for their own sins, perhaps they'll have a right to speak. Or as Paul says, " I wish they would go the whole way and emasculate themselves!" (Gal.5:12 NIV).

All of the passages in the gospels where our Lord discusses this issue say that a person "who marries" someone else after wrongfully divorcing their spouse "commits adultery" . . . i.e., by the act of marrying. But our Lord does not tell the Pharisees either that the new marriage is not a marriage (because it is indeed a marriage) or that the have "the right" or "the duty" to now divorce this new wife. That would result in untold confusion. What they did – in wrongful divorce of an innocent party – was an act of adultery. A sin. For those who turned to Him, of course, that sin (and all other sins) was forgiven.

I have bumped into a number of individuals and groups that want us to be fixated on the past in a legalistic way. It reminds me somewhat of these legalistic "12 step programs" that seek to go forward by going backward. That can never work. That only ever makes things worse – and it is definitely NOT in the Bible.

I do pray for your peace. However you want to analyze or think about or judge your past life, it really is irrelevant – unless you let it start affecting your present and your future. After all, if we have sinned, Christ died for those sins. We cannot go back and take them back; we cannot go back and make them better or wash them away. There is no way to "un-sin". And there is no need to do so because Jesus has died for them. And isn't it an affront to Him to suggest that what He did for us is somehow so insufficient that we need to get involved and "fix it"?

Not to mention that it would be wrong, hurtful, dishonorable, and oh so sinful to betray the new commitments we've made, just because someone is making us feel bad about what happened in the past.

The Christian life, properly lived, is about moving forward, not looking backward.

Yours in our dear Lord and Savior Jesus Christ,

Bob L.

Question #13:

Dear Bob

Apologies. Please can I ask again, because my mind keeps turning back. I hear and welcome all you say about the married staying put in their marriages.

The logical twist of the knife is when the ‘opposition’ say we are still married to our first spouse in God’s eyes. They don’t care I’m divorced and remarried, that means nothing to them. As Jesus said it was adultery to remarry, and adultery is sex outside your (first) marriage, ergo, that’s proof I’m not really married to my second husband, but still to my first, or it would not be adultery. I frequently find that compelling.

These thoughts are how I defend myself:

In Deut 24:1-4 the woman could remarry, but she’s still defiled. Was that an enduring condition? Couldn’t she atone for that? Jesus has atoned for me. She wasn’t told not to remarry. Not sure about this, and I’m in good company, I gather!

I’m hearing people say Jesus likens remarriage to adultery, but it’s not quite the same, and no one mentioned the death penalty, nor for lust, mental adultery. Perhaps that’s the defilement.

I hear people say this type of adultery is hyperbole, to make us sit up and think, before we divorce. Reasoned because Jesus also says things about eye plucking and hand amputation which we don’t follow. He’s provocative!

I hear people point out that Jesus still speaks of divorce and remarriage in Matt 19. He’s not negating these processes, so they are real and achieve an ending of the first marriage.
To point out that Jesus doesn’t want us to separate what God has joined speaks to it being possible.

But when applying that thought to a second marriage I have to wonder whether a God has joined us together. Rather He may notice that we’ve done a bit of severing and joining all by ourselves!

The woman at the well spoke of all she’d ever done, which hardly sounds something she was proud of, so I feel fairly safe in assuming she wasn’t just a multiple remarried widow. I think she was divorced and remarried, maybe more than once. And Jesus called these men husbands, and differentiated between the different statuses. Therefore to be remarried isn’t the same ‘as living in sin’.

And the apostles, once they’d thought it through, rather than stone second timers or prevent marriage at all, given the risk, did not make remarrieds separate. I’m told there’s no record of it in the early church, where many gentile converts must have been affected. And the odd Pharisee.

One flesh can’t be the thing that keeps me bound to my first husband, or Paul’s remarks about prostitutes would be other than they are. And fornication isn’t enough to prevent a first marriage.

Another one flesh bond isn’t enough to break the first, since reconciliation is initially possible. It is the making of a second marriage that prevents return, so that second marriage must mean something real.

Ok then, stay there, and feel justifiably uncomfortable at the thought of my forgiven sin. It’s a catch 22, keeping to a second adulterous marriage but hoping that’s not the sort of adultery that keeps you out of an eternal relationship with God.

In Deut 24 the first husband was a ba’al, whereas the second was an ish. Can’t have another ba’al I notice. I hope that’s not significant. Still, it happened, and I’ve found another man to love and support me, albeit an ish. Ish can mean husband.

So why isn’t all this proving enough for me? Why does my mind keep swinging back to a feeling that I shouldn’t be here? The eternal knot in my stomach. How do I know that’s not the Holy Spirit convicting me? I suspect I am OCD and a high functioning anxiety prisoner! Is this truly false guilt?

It is unique among sins because of its status. And it’s consequences. Even becoming a parent as a result of fornication, I couldn’t stop being a parent. But I could stop being a second wife. What Horror.

Repentance is to turn away, stop what you’re doing wrong. Except in this case?

It all hangs in whether I was, in God’s eyes able to effectively sever my first marriage such that my subsequent remarriage is real, since I did not divorce for reasons of porneia. But then what does that make of Jesus saying it’s adultery? How is that differentiated from the ‘ordinary’ adultery we all understand?

Perhaps my real problem is how to cope with uncertainty when I’m dealing with matters of life and death!

I am also asking the Lord’s help, believe me!

I’m so sorry

Thank you for listening

Response #13:

I'm sorry to hear that this is still troubling you.

Regarding "why isn’t all this proving enough for me?" First, being solid and confident in the Christian walk is not a "one issue" proposition. Spiritual growth based on believing all of what the Bible has to say (through reading the Bible and very importantly through accessing a good teaching ministry consistently) is necessary to gain spiritual stability so as to be able to pass tests such as this. And, also very importantly, truth received has to be believed, not just intellectually understood. If we "know" something, but also entertain other opinions and don't commit to believing what is true, mere knowledge of the truth isn't going to help us. The Spirit uses the truth we have believed in our hearts to guide us and help us.

Regarding "It all hangs in whether I was, in God’s eyes able to effectively sever my first marriage such that my subsequent remarriage is real". With all due respect, this is demonstrably false:

1) Your salvation "hangs" on whether or not you have a living, breathing faith in Jesus Christ. If you do – and you do – then you are saved, because all believers are saved; only unbelievers are not saved (Jn.3:18). People who think they are secure in salvation because of "what they are doing" and "how they are behaving" are, to the extent that they see this as causative, not even saved, because they have flipped the Christian faith on its head and made it a religion of works (this is what the RC church believes, after all). But we are saved "by grace through faith" alone, and NOT of "works" (Eph.2:8-9).

2) Even if you were wrong to get divorced and wrong to get re-married, even if these were sins, all sin has been atoned for by Jesus Christ who died for them all; we could never "make up" for a single one. And for a person who does something horrifically wrong (as in wrongly divorcing his/her partner without cause out of selfish motives as the Pharisees did), to try to "make up" for prior perceived sin, is actually not only not "making up" for anything but actually in fact doing far worse: failing to trust God, considering Christ's work insufficient, damaging others to salve our guilt – which is only rising that level because we have not be progressing spiritually as we are commanded to do.

We are forgiven all of our sins when we confess. Some sins are indeed more damaging than others, but Christ had to die for every single sin, even the ones that are not bothering you; and all sins, even the ones that are bothering you, are forgiven on confession – forgiven forever (1Jn.1:9).

3) Whatever the prior history and whatever the truth of it is (you still after all this time and effort are in the dark about the details), what God is concerned about is the here and now. The Christian life is one of moving FORWARD, not looking backward (Phil.3:13).

Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But even if you do marry, you have not sinned.
1st Corinthians 7:27-28a NKJV

This and every other verse on this subject (and others too) always recommend preserving the status quo – precisely the OPPOSITE of what these false teachers are telling you.

If Christians in this country all began divorcing their spouses to go back to their first wives / husbands, can you imagine how much pain and suffering and dislocation would be caused? Just think of the children. And for what? How does this make things better in any way? There was a reason, after all, that the first marriages collapsed. And who says spouse #1 will be willing to have another go or be better next time? This is insanity. It violates every basic principle of spiritual common sense I can think of. More to the point, it's not biblical – God does not require it; just the opposite. While there are many verses in scripture that commend the status quo for the sake of decency and good order, there is not a verse in the Bible which counsels Christians today to get divorced! Indeed, scripture tells us to stay married if possible, and then to stay single if possible. But these false teachers violate both commands at once counseling divorce and remarriage!

"It's not a marriage". Says who? Not the Bible. Marriage is a civil institution set up for the entire human race by God, and just as God allows laws on commerce and felonies, e.g., to be established by the nation in question, so it is in marriage. If a couple are married in the eyes of the state, they are married in the eyes of God. It is as simple as that. Whenever anyone in the Bible is described as "married", it is because they had committed to each other in the manner deemed appropriate by the culture and government in which and under which they were living.

Did Jesus tell the Pharisees who had divorced wife #1 out of lust for woman #2 that in divorcing and remarrying they had committed adultery thereby? Yes. Did He tell them they must now divorce #2 and return to #1? No. That would have been wronging #2 and trying to "fix" a sin by human effort (the essence of the very legalism of which the Pharisees were so guilty). The only "fix" for their sin was in putting their faith in Christ whereby all their sins would be forgiven.

Did the woman at the well have five husbands but the current "man" in her life was not here husband? Indeed. And this proves the point. The current man was not a husband because she had not married him. The previous five, unquestionably involving divorces, were her husbands because she had married them. Q.E.D. Does Jesus tell her to go back to #1 or #2 or #3 or #4 or #5? No. He guides her to salvation – which she receives by faith in Him and NOT by going back to 1/2/3/4/5 – not by trying to "fix" her sins. Jesus died for them. That is the ONLY "fix". And by the way. Assuming that #1 or #2 or #3 or #4 or #5 has remarried, and assuming that for some of them this woman was wife #1, is Jesus telling all of them to remarry her? Heaven forbid! But this is the sort of nonsense that such false teaching begets.

The Lord has blessed you with a husband and a family. Treasure these blessings. Whatever sins you may have committed were forgiven you as soon as you first confessed them. Don't worry about "getting away" with anything; the Lord always disciplines us in a loving way to bring about the correction He desires. And, by the way, it seems to me that you are torturing yourself far worse than any discipline you might have received in the past.

We are responsible for what we believe. I have seen many Christians tie themselves into knots over something in their past, and I can tell you that misplaced guilt is one of the devil's ace trumps, and he uses it to great effect. What is truly sad, however, is the plethora of false teachers out there who have sold themselves to do his bidding. I wouldn't want to be in their shoes.

So unburden yourself of you guilt, my friend. The Lord forgave you when first you confessed. Since this was long ago, the discipline is no doubt long over as well (if it were even appropriate). Don't let lies ruin your life and take away your joy and your peace. This is a horrible heresy that's being thrown at you. Your job is to reject it resolutely. Stand fast in that position . . . and commit yourself to an aggressive campaign of spiritual growth. That is the only way to build our joy and peace in the long run, focusing ever on the blessed hope of all that is to come.

Yours in Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #14:

Oh Bob thank you so much! Yes!

Yesterday I started moving in the right direction. Mum gave me a book by Smith Wigglesworth on Faith. I’d never before likened God’s love for me to like a husband for his bride, and it said to think of how much you know your husband loves you and how you trust him, which is something my second husband has so beautifully taught me in his great love, loyalty and support. That helped me to try and rest and trust. Because the Lord will be like that too. Prov 3:5-6 is something I get so wrong! Wanting to understand, not believe. I said to the Lord I wanted him to take care of it because I’m exhausted with this, and to leave it to him, and now yes, I shall do all as you say. I’m sorry I dumped on you. I can’t share this with my poor man! And he doesn’t even know the Lord. I agree it’s an attack of Satan.

Thank you so much for your agape for my situation and all you’ve said to help me. And your honesty. I read you said in an answer that if you believed salvation was at stake you would counsel separation, and I believe you.

My Pastor is at a loss to help me, having said his piece, and my mother is unable to get her mind around it either, as it slowly crumbles, dear lady, but she loves the Lord. And there you are. As I was wallowing in a mire, you’ve helped me with just the right tone of encouragement and a way forward.

You’ve done me such a great service. Thank you!

Right, I must gird my loins and get on with the day. The car must go to the garage and I’ve a pile of ironing to do! A good quiet time would be a good start too!

God bless and keep you, my friend, pointing to my Friend!

Response #14:

You're most welcome, my friend.

I do pray for you daily, and I certainly hope that now you can begin moving forward towards peace in spiritual growth.

In Jesus our dear Lord and Savior,

Question #15:

Dear Bob

I’ve been thinking about the works based attitude you see in me, which surprised me, because I thought myself aware of that particular danger! I was seeing my problem like this: having repented, was there a need to come out of the situation, similar to trying to undo anything you’ve done wrong, say making some reparation if you’d been dishonest, or apologising if you’ve hurt someone. I was seeing it as trying to cease from sinning, making a sea change, not that doing it would save me, but that not doing it might have the opposite effect and prevent my salvation. Aha! I guess not?

But you reminded me of John 3:18, which was perhaps over familiar to me, and I saw it in a new light - it’s pure, and it’s simple, I’m saved by believing, and nothing else is required. Thank you!

I am also able to say of some of the proponents of this teaching, that they are sincere, having thought it through and studied carefully, and they believe they are trying to save me from burning. But others sound judgmental and even hateful, you’re right.

As I read the Wiggelsworth book on faith I have to admit I lack in faith, in expectation of what God might do for me, while not at all disbelieving in what He CAN do. You’re right, I have some work to do! I thought l had been, but I need a change of gear or depth or something. I am currently following a reading plan, with about 5 weeks to go. But I find it hard to pray. I’ll start on your website! Not just the bits I thought I needed, or waiting patiently for 6B. (No pressure, sorry!)

And I do try to rely too much on my own understanding, I know. ‘Yesbut’ is my middle name!

Thanks again and thank you for your prayers. I pray for you and your work too. And big on gratitude at the moment!

Response #15:

You're very welcome, my friend – and thanks for your prayers too!

I appreciate your assessment and your intention to plow into the real "work" ahead (growth, progress and production for the Lord).

As to sincerity, sincerity is great; zeal is great; but not if it is not according to the truth (Rom.10:2). I'm sure that Paul was sincere before he was saved when he was hunting down Christians to punish, imprison and execute them. But he was wrong. And in fact, his zeal and sincerity just acted as a multiplier to intensify the wrong.

Anyone who is interfering with someone else' life and telling them to do things which will turn that life upset down better be VERY sure they are right and not wrong. Since there is not a scripture which even suggests remarried Christians should divorce, let alone go back to their former spouses, these individuals have clearly not done their "homework". At the VERY least, anyone with an ounce of humility who bothered to actually look at the biblical passages with some care would realize that the issue is not so simple as these "sincere people" want to believe. The best I can say for them is that they are blindly following the false teaching of some one else' ministry, so that the primary blame falls on the false teacher. But they are still to blame: 1) for getting caught up in a false teaching ministry when our Lord told us very clearly to "test the tree" and avoid it if the fruit is bad; 2) for meddling in a VERY dangerous way in the lives of others without a biblical mandate to do so; and 3) for not reading their Bibles carefully and committing the matter to the Lord in prayer before doing so – which, had they done so, the Spirit would have warned them off. This is why I am not a fan of "sincerity".

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #16:

I see why my mother calls me a gentle soul. I couldn’t dream of having this much fire in my belly! Thank God you do!

In Jesus

Response #16:

Yes, false teaching always seems to get me riled up.

In Jesus,

Bob L.

Question #17:

Hi so I'm trying to become a Christian and in my search for a church I was told that my marriage was not a real one because I divorced my husband for a non biblical reason I'm scared outbid my mind because I have a son in this marriage and a wonderful husband and I can't just divorce him. Please help me

Response #17:

I'm sorry to hear that this issue is still plaguing you.

Let me assure you it would be wrong to divorce your present husband. A marriage is a marriage, according to the Bible, regardless of past events or present circumstances, and Christians are told by scripture to stay in their marriages if at all possible. So unless they are being abused physically or emotionally and thus essentially forced out by current spouse, sticking with it is what the Bible enjoins. People who say otherwise do so without ANY true biblical support. They quote scriptures but in error, not understanding what they mean. This is a real problem. Whatever divine discipline a person received for some past error, past errors cannot be made good and God forgives us whatever we have done (or said or thought) when we confess. We cannot go back and fix the past. But people who are telling other people lies, counseling them to break scripture and ruin their lives in the process, are deeply involved in evil – and will pay the price if they persist.

I'm very happy for you that you have a good marriage and family. These are blessing from the Lord, even if you got there in a way that was not the best and have suffered some for that. But today is today and we are told to make the best of today and not be looking backward at yesterday. My advice to you is to rejoice in what the Lord has given you, confident in His complete and merciful forgiveness for any past wrongdoing (real or imagined), and – by all means – part company with any and all who tell you such vile things.

One more important thing. Peace is the heritage of all believers in Jesus Christ, but like all spiritual blessings it is accessed through learning, believing and applying the truth of the Word of God. What that means is that spiritual growth is critical for the concomitant growth of your spiritual common sense and equilibrium. It is rare to find a church these days where the Bible is taught correctly in sufficient depth for such growth to be possible. As evidenced by your search, churches today are lazy for the most part and are instead only interested in ritual or emotion or entertainment or crusading – and in this case, crusading on this weird and dangerous quest to have good Christians get divorced to satisfy some sick legalistic desire totally bereft of any spiritual content. You are certainly welcome to the materials at Ichthys (this is "my church" as I am fond of saying). I also recommend pastor-teacher Curtis Omo's Bible Academy (at the link).

Here are some links at Ichthys to where this subject has been discussed in some detail:

Divorce and Remarriage: What does the Bible say?

What about Christians who Remarry?

Christian Divorce and Remarriage

Jephthah's Daughter, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage

A Conversation about Divorce and Remarriage

No Grounds for Divorce?

Marriage and the Bible II

Marriage and the Bible

Love, Marriage, and Divorce: Marriage and the Bible III

Yours in Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #18:

Thank you so much and hopefully you have helped a lot of people as well. I would rather suffer in eternal fire then leave my husband and ruin the life of my son. I have a really bad fear of hell anyways and Have since I was very little. It was a man from a church in my own town so that why it seems to be bother me so much it's not something that I just read online. It's hurts really bad

Response #18:

The truly good news is that you don't have to give up your marriage or ruin anyone's life AND you are definitely going to heaven as a believer in Jesus Christ (Jn.3:18).

People who, like this person you report, sow discord and counsel confusion, however, while they do not go to hell for such actions, still, such actions call into question whether or not they are saved in the first place; and such actions are definitely a sign of and also contribute to wandering from the Lord in the second place – the end of which process is disaster.

Thanks for your good words!

Keeping you in prayer.

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #19:

Why do the DtR people teach this then?

Response #19:

It has to do with the devil, mostly. People who are arrogant and self-righteous seem to feel that they inflate themselves by destroying and diminishing others. And on the other side of the coin, people who have not been growing in the Word as they should tend to over-react in guilt when they are "called to account" by these self-righteous legalists.

“How is it you do not understand that I did not speak to you concerning bread?—but to beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and Sadducees.” Then they understood that He did not tell them to beware of the leaven of bread, but of the doctrine of the Pharisees and Sadducees.
Matthew 16:11-12

There is much such "leaven" of false teaching out there these days (it's a sign of the time: 1Tim.4:1-3; 2Tim.3:1-9); best advice: do what our Lord says and beware of it.

In Jesus our dear Savior,

Bob L.

Question #20:

He was from the church of Christ and what's worse people he actually divorced because he quotes Matthew 19 I believe and it was awful and he traumatized me honestly

Response #20:

He should actually READ Matthew 19. If he did, he would see that Jesus does NOT tell anyone to GET divorced. He tells them not to get divorced in the first place. That is a HUGE difference. In fact, what these people are doing is directly turning our Lord's teaching on its head since He says "don't do it" and they say "you have to do it".

I seriously doubt the salvation of any "pastor" who would have the temerity to say such things and to ruin other people's lives without a qualm of conscience in the process.

Did I mention the devil?

Question #21:

For some reason I can't shake this. All I can do is see me burning in hell for eternity and it's causing me so much pain and dysfunction. Please help me. Shake this. I hope people have not actually listen to these people. I'm scared bob really scared. Why do they tell people this??

Response #21:

We've discussed "these people". You know the answer to that question.

What's needed now is to believe scripture . . . and jettison any further consideration of "these people".

"He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God."
John 3:18 NKJV

You are a believer in Jesus Christ. Believers are saved. Only unbelievers go to hell. "Those people" who would do such things give evidence of being unbelievers (only God knows for sure), but YOU know that you believe in Jesus Christ, that you have been born again / from above, and so you are saved.

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1st John 1:9 NKJV

I don't know what the situation in the past was in all of its details, so I don't even know that this applies, but just on the off chance that you did do something wrong way back then, you were forgiven as soon as you confessed. Whatever divine discipline you had coming then (no doubt long gone now) was meant for blessing from a loving Father disciplining a child He loves – which very discipline was a sign that you were/are a child of God (Heb.12:7-8).

I acknowledged my sin to You,
And my iniquity I have not hidden.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,”
And You forgave the iniquity of my sin.
Psalm 32:5 NKJV

This is what David says. David did MUCH worse than you, because he killed a man in order to take his wife for himself after committing adultery with her while she was married to him – and David was forgiven. Mind you, he was disciplined -- heavily over many years – but God never withdrew His love of His Holy Spirit from him.

The only thing you have to worry about is falling into an obsessive pattern of self-destruction. It is harmful. It is unnecessary. It is not biblical. But I have seen it before.

The way to combat this, the only way, really, is to commit yourself to an aggressive program of spiritual growth. That is the only way to equip yourself for this spiritual warfare in which you are suffering. I recommend starting with BB 6A: Peripateology or the Peter series.

I'm keeping you in my prayers, my friend. No matter what, we will be singing together in the heavenly choir some day. You just have to believe that.

Yours in Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #22:

[details about past situation omitted]

What do you mean by self-destructive? What have you seen before? I know in my heart that it would be wrong to divorce my current husband and we have a child together and that would also ruin his life as well. But I can't shake what that man told me. I'm really trying to because either way I won't leave my husband.

Response #22:

This was what I remembered. First, while adultery is a sin, no one should stay in any relationship where there is serious abuse, physical or emotional. That sort of treatment of a spouse effectively ends a marriage. The state recognizes that as grounds for divorce and did even when divorce was not so easy to come by many years ago. Marriage is a civil institution – that is how God designed it. A marriage is a marriage and a divorce is a divorce, and there is no going back.

When the children of Israel rebelled against the Lord and Moses, refusing to up to inherit the land because of the bad report the 10 spies brought back, later, when they repented and decided to go up on their own, they were defeated. There is a time for everything. If married, one should stay married if possible – it wasn't possible in your previous marriage; it is possible now. People who give different counsel, non-biblical counsel, will have to answer to the Lord for that.

Beyond all argument, the Bible teaches staying married if married when possible to do so. It never counsels divorce as these people are doing. So they have it completely backwards.

I am sorry you are having trouble spitting out this lie. But it is a lie. I counsel you to spit it out. You have free will and you are the one who decides what to believe. The Bible tells you what he says is a lie. Your heart, spoken to by the Spirit, tells you what that person says is a lie. That's two witnesses right there. Believe the truth. Reject the lie. That part is up to you. As mentioned, this gets easier as a believer grows spiritually across the board, so the ultimate solution to guilt feelings and uncertainty is the confidence and faith that grows as a believer grows spiritually. I encourage you to enter onto that path and not look back.

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #23:

Am I going to hell for the adultery of being in this second marriage like they say? I can't leave my husband bob we have a good marriage and a little boy. I'm scared there is a small chance he is right and I will burn In hell for eternity

Response #23:

There is not even the SLIGHTEST chance that this person is "right" – because he couldn't be more wrong.

Whatever you did in the past, justified or not, has been forgiven when you confessed it to the Lord.

Having relations with one's legal spouse is not only NOT wrong but in fact it would be wrong not to (1Cor.7:5).

We are told not to worry or fear. The Lord loves us and delivers us from everything, and will continue to do so until He takes us home. The only thing we need to fear/revere is Him. But if we do listen to false teaching, it will do us damage – as listening to this false teaching is damaging you.

Here is as simple as I can say it:

1) Stop listening to false teaching and stop giving it any heed.

2) Start listening to good teaching and begin to grow spiritually . . . by believing it.

I can tell you the truth. But if you don't believe it, it can't do you any good.

Keeping you in my prayers.

In Jesus our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #24:

I believe you and I'm taking your advise. It had me shaken up for a bit but I don't believe it in my heart that it's true. Thank you for everything

Response #24:

You're most welcome.

I'm very happy to hear this.

I'll keep praying for you.

In Jesus our dear Savior,

Bob L.

Question #25:

Dear Robert

Can I be assured that having married an unbeliever, first and second time, when I knew it was wrong, is also something I don’t have to undo? I’ve seen that said too. That when it says to come out, is a present ongoing tense, which doesn’t match a one off sin. Similar problem I guess.

I have sorrowfully repented of my godless years. I wasn’t close to God then and hoped my husband’s belief and seeking were enough. A rose by another name. That rather matched the degree of my own commitment at the time. But I knew it was against the rules.

This is why I said it hangs on whether you can lose your salvation or not. If I was a proper Christian in my teens, and I was just a lapsed one when I married and remarried, I am more accountable than if I lost my salvation and then refound it, God be praised, many years later.
So did I or not re marry as a Christian, ie when did I really come to saving faith? I really don’t know!

I look at Ezra 9 and 10 and I understand that is about the illegality of their covenants, and racial and religious purity, but I also read in my ESV study bible that the words used for “married” and “put away” were actually more along the lines of “we have given a home” and “bring out”, suggesting not real marriages, which I find strangely comforting. And there were so few of them. Should I? Ezra 10:2-3

God didn’t want his people diluted and led away from Him in the next generation, and needed a pure line to deliver His Seed, to save them and also the Gentiles. To keep His promise to Abraham. However, we are now grafted into Israel, his people.

Paul says to not divorce non believing spouses, which seems to trump the dangers of living with non believer, and he doesn’t make a distinction as to how that came about, so I hope that’s ok. Those who think not assume Paul couldn’t be meaning rebellious marriages because that would contradict Ezra, so he must only be referring to those who married before coming to faith. Which would also make Shechaniah’s actual words more relevant. I wouldn’t expect to be able to stay with my man if I hadn’t married him!

Isn’t Satan clever, or aren’t I in a mess!

Thank you, as ever, and apologies for being such a load. I’m sorry.

Response #25:

I'm sorry this is still plaguing you. At some point, all persevering Christians, it seems, manage to come to the point of accepting God's forgiveness and letting go of the past on most issues. Only "the things" that upset us and cause us to feel guilty seem to be different. No one is without sin, and becoming morbidly guilt-ridden over things long past is a deadly trap for any believer.

Does the Bible ever counsel divorce? Never.

The passage in Ezra is a historical passage. It explains what the people did. It does not say "this is what God told the people to do", or "this is what people always should do", nor does it even say "this is what people ever should do". This is what they did do. Were they right or wrong in doing it? Scripture does not say. We understand why they did it, but please note that this was not ordered by the Lord.

We are not Israelites. That nation was given specific commands in regard to marrying outside of their race. Note that even so some did so – and this happened in the line of the Messiah in the case of Ruth and also in the case of Rahab. In those two cases, it is clear that these women were believers. But no one told Obed or Boaz to divorce their wives because they weren't of Israel – and they certainly did not. But in Ezra, the very small remnant might have been completely diluted by mass intermarriage with foreign women. So they did what they did. Notice that no such thing had ever been done before or after. Notice also that there was a judicial procedure about which we are told little. Were believing spouses allowed to stay married? Were there other mitigating circumstances? We are not told. What did Jesus tell men such as the ones who in the book of Ezra lined up to divorce their foreign wives: "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery" (Matt.5:32). In the Ezra example, we are not told of a single case of adultery as a basis for this mass divorce. It would seem to be contrary to what our Lord says about this issue. After all, the whole purpose of this mass divorce was precisely to marry other women, Jewish women, for racial purposes: remarriage to a new woman (not a former spouse) after divorce, however one defines it – exactly the opposite of what these people are trying to derive from it.

As I say, we understand why they did this, but the best I think we can say for them is that the nation as a whole was in a position of having to do something wrong – from a position of weakness – to avoid something worse. That is a common situation in this life. When David deceived Achish on the point of going to war on the side of the Philistines (1Sam.29:2) and latter disingenuously expressed outrage when God bailed him out of having to do so (1Sam.29:8), he was also making the best of a bad situation, lying to get out of it – when he never should have gone into Philistine territory in the first place but should have stayed in the desert and trusted the Lord to continue to deliver him. That is to say, he was "in a situation" because of a prior bad decision – but we should not take from this that lying and deception are "good". Similarly, the Israelites of Ezra's day were "in a situation" because they had married so many foreign wives, but that does not mean that the extreme means they were then forced to take – because of prior bad decisions – was correct or good or recommended or ever technically allowed: this mass divorce seems to me to violate the precepts of the Law.

So the Ezra example is not a parallel at all, not in any way. God hates divorce (Mal.2:16). And nowhere in the Bible is divorce ever counseled as a cure for any past mistakes – or counseled at all (it is only occasionally allowed).

I can't think of anything more foolish than divorce if the couple is happily married. It makes no rational sense at all, and, more to the point, it violates even an infant believer's spiritual common sense. We do what the Spirit tells us to do. We do NOT do what guilt feelings tell us to do. These are NOT the same things. Doesn't the Spirit tell you that the Lord has blessed you with a good marriage? What does that say? OK, you're not perfect. OK, you've made mistakes. Welcome to the human race. But we are here as Christians to move forward in our walk with the Lord, not to look back at the past, as if that could ever be fixed even in its smallest part.

Yes, Paul's words are VERY clear. If you're married, stay married, if at all possible. That is the farthest thing I can think of from "you should get divorced". And I certainly don't find anything like that in the Bible anywhere.

One last thing. The only way to get to the point of living a life of peace focused on the hope to come is through spiritual growth. Merely focusing on problems that are bothering us, even if we do so via the scripture, is like putting band-aids on a patient with a systematic infection. The inside has to be fixed for the sores to go away. So I would counsel you to commit yourself to a consistent program of spiritual growth broadly. That is the way to grow to maturity and beyond – and the way to earn eternal rewards as well.

In Jesus Christ our dear Lord and Savior,

Bob L.

Question #26:

Thank you Bob, duly chastened! I appreciate it. And yes He has greatly blessed me, and all good gifts come from Him. I do count my blessings. I really need some CBT or something, but there’s no point without a Christian counselor, and those that refuse to tell you what they think are useless! You have done me great and good service, thank you so much. I tried some CBT, but until I could assuredly tell myself I was wrong about all this, from scripture, it just felt like ignoring a guilty conscience, skating over the top, and so dishonest. I think it’s congealing gradually, and I’m recognising patterns of thought I can feel safer to avoid than before.

My pastor has nothing more to say, my poor mother can’t remember what we said an hour ago, and of course I can’t frighten my husband with this. I think I would have gone mad, so thank you.

I shall keep these emails to help me if I relapse, which is entirely possible, and try not to go over the same ground, and give you some peace.

God bless you, as you have blessed me with your kindly advice and patience.

In Christ!

Response #26:

You're most welcome!

Feel free to write any time.

In Jesus our dear Savior,

Bob L.

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Special Prayer Requests

A special word of thanks to all who have been praying for this ministry.  The Lord has brought about a great deliverance for me and mine.  I am forever grateful to Him, and also to all of you who have been faithfully interceding for me and for this ministry.

The Lord is my strength and my song, and He has become my salvation.
Exodus 15:2

Addendum: 12/24/16:  I also want to thank everyone who has been praying for my family and especially for my mother.  She passed away yesterday morning at the age of ninety-six.  Considering the sad shape she was in, it was a blessing that the Lord took her when He did.  She died "full of years" in the company of those who loved her, and now she is with the Lord – and nothing is better than that (Phil.1:23; Rev.7:17; 21:4).

Update on Urgent Prayer Request For Vau (5/29/19): 

Hello Brother Bob, Vau passed this morning. He is now with our Lord. Please continue to lift our family up in prayer.

Sister Shevetta Washington

***Link to Vau's obituary

More Prayer Requests:

  • *For Angel and her family and their business, for deliverance.

  • *Brian is in the hospital with pancreatitis; please also pray that his insurance will cover it.

  • For Will successful surgery for his for his nerve impingement, and for deliverance from family pressure to dismiss and denigrate his spiritual advance as 'depression' needing involuntary treatment.

  • For Walter's son Josh, in need of surgery for a defective heart valve.

  • For Lowell, for success for proton therapy for his prostate cancer.

  • *For our friend Gaurav, for encouragement, health, and material deliverance. [n.b., Gaurav was the first one on this list years ago; he writes that he is still "hanging in" and staying faithful to the Lord, but he and his family are in greater material need than ever; please remember them in your prayers]
  • *For Shontel, for the means and opportunity to get out of a debilitating and dangerous domestic situation ASAP.
  • For David's wife who is entering hospice [*update: our friend's wife has gone to be with the Lord; please pray for his comfort].
  • For Kevin for successful brain tumor surgery.
  • *For Bob P. for guidance and healing in facing prostate cancer; also for help in healing a painful skin disorder (praise here as the condition has been somewhat ameliorated, but please keep him in prayer); *and Bob wife, Debbie, just diagnosed with invasive ductile breast cancer *[update: treatments successful!  Please continue prayer as some continued therapy necessary for some time].
  • For comfort for Jon and his family in the loss of his father.  Thanks to all who have been praying for him.  Jon reports convincing evidence that his dad was indeed saved before the end.  Praise the Lord!
  • For Abby for success and blessing in her new efforts in ministry, and for her cousin Danny's health. *Please also pray for her health, strength and perseverance in stressful and challenging circumstances.
  • For our friend Bartek, for the recovery of his health, and also for success in gaining citizenship in the UK [*praise here as his petition was successful!]. *Also, please pray for empowerment and help for his father in his evangelization ministry.
  • For help and support for Yuhanna and his family in the midst of continuing trial and testing, and for the salvation of his wider family. And please pray in particular for financial help and help for a better job for his wife in the midst of this crisis.  **[update: 12/18: please pray for success for a critical initiative that would overturn much wrong and right the situation for our friend and other affected; *next 60 days are crucial]. *Yuhanna also asks for prayer for his wife and children find a sound biblically based church and for the Lord to display the fruit of The Spirit in their lives; and also for Charlotte to find employment.
  • For Ramsey, for success in his job application process [praise here! please keep him in your prayers].
  • *For the empowerment of our friend Curt's ministry; for his health, the health of his family [praise for good news here - please pray for Curt's own health], and for his finances. *Critical: please also pray for immediate deliverance from false accusations.
  • *For our brother Abishai's help and guidance in preparing for ministry, as well as for his healing and help with his business to provide for his family's basic needs, and for the health and healing of his young daughter [praise here!].  Please also pray for his brother, a believer, to be led to the truth on important issues of doctrine. And please also pray for the health of his wife and children, and of his father in law.  Please also pray for the protection of the family living very close to Sri Lanka.  And also please pray for two Hindu's our brother is trying to lead to Christ: Sudhir and Suraj.

  • For our friend Betty's help and deliverance [praise the Lord for answered prayer!].
  • For our friend Carol's recovery, encouragement and for help in her professional life.
  • For our friend Vau's father for healing from critical illness, and for Vau's encouragement [praise here!].
  • For our friend John's family's deliverance from cult influence [praise for some good news here, but some members are still entrapped]. *Please also pray for John's health and that of his wife as well.

  • For our friend Kathleen's recovery from a terrible accident.
  • For our friend Steve for strength, protection, providence and deliverance – more needful now than ever.
  • For help and deliverance for our friend Cindy's daughter.
  • *For our friend Brittany's healing from cancer, and for her spiritual recovery and encouragement.
  • For our friend Ken and his family's protection from persecution for seeking the truth.
  • For the family of Jewel, a recently martyred pastor in Bangladesh (please see the link).
  • Ken Young's ministry and for his health (please see the link).
  • For Christian congregations being persecuted in Sri Lanka (please see the link).
  • For our friend Neal's help in and healing from devastating illness.
  • *[For young Joel, a newborn with Zellweger syndrome . . .]; from the family:  little Omari Joel passed on June 4, 2018 at the age of 5 ½. There are no words to express our gratitude for your prayers, and your love will always be remembered. Your prayers were blessed with love, grace, and an eternal relationship with Jesus. May God continue to bless you each and every day, and thank you for bringing our family into your family. Amen. Many blessings, keep family in your prayers!!!
  • For our friend Mark's successful surgery and swift recovery.
  • *For the healing, blessing, encouragement and vindication of our brother, Nihal.  Please also protect him and his family and church family from the recent troubles in Sri Lanka.
  • *For our friend Mike's encouragement and God's blessing on his livelihood to provide for his family (urgently needed at present!).
  • For Helen's healing from cancer and for her comfort in the loss of her family members.
  • For pastor Don's wife Jessie's healing from cancer.
  • For Clyde's encouragement and deliverance in severe testing.
  • For John, for help in getting more hours or work or a better job.
  • For our friend John's help in coping with a difficult medical condition (cadasil).
  • For our friend Paul's father-in-law, for deliverance from cancer.
  • For healing for Leigh's dad's health (praise for betterment here - she thanks everyone for their prayers), for her daughter's healing from hypothyroidism and celiac disease, and for encouragement and help for her.
  • *For the salvation of Judah's friend, and for help for Judah in overcoming spiritual obstacles and for help in preparing for ministry.
  • For Tom for help in the development of all skills necessary for an apologetics ministry combating atheism in particular. *Please also pray for the salvation of his grandmother.

  • For the deliverance of Michael's wife from extreme charismatic influence.
  • For Michael's deliverance from debt, stress and unwanted conflict – special prayer help needed here as things are getting worse.
  • For our friend Karl's mother's salvation.
  • For our friend Oscar's continued spiritual growth and help in securing suitable employment in spite of serious satanic opposition.
  • For Richard Khum and Mission Training School in Myanmar (richardlkhum@gmail.com).
  • For Ashley and help with her marriage.
  • For Wen and family in a new area without suitable Bible teaching.
  • For Zach's healing, deliverance and comfort from severe cult abuse and control, and to be led into God’s truth.
  • For the salvation of Danny's mother and for her healing in extreme pain; for healing in body and mind, and for his protection and blessing on his family and for their reconciliation.  Please also pray for Danny's living situation, and also for his job situation where he is experiencing persecution.
  • For deliverance for John's friend from the JW heresy.
  • For our friend who wished to remain nameless, for her protection and the protection of her children from a hostile and aggressive "ex".
  • For the deliverance of Jay's friend from the influence of a noxious cult.
  • For our friend Anna and her family's comfort in the loss of her daughter, and for the comfort, encouragement and salvation of her two children.
  • For our friend Sheila's healing from the effects of a chronic condition.
  • *For our friend Sandra, suffering from multiply myeloma [praise here! please keep her in your prayers]; *also, please keep her in your prayers for other serious health issues.
  • For David's wife who is recovering from back surgery.
  • For friends Lynette, Angie, Marcia, Dan and Jeffery, all of whom are presently under heavy spiritual pressures and in need of prayer and encouragement.
  • For our newly converted brother Jacob in India, for healing for him and for his daughter, for his material needs, and for the salvation of his parents.
  • For our friend Tommy, for a roof over his head.
  • For the protection of Crystal and her family.
  • For Billy's mother to be led into all of God's truth.
  • ***For Resi in transitioning from Roman Catholicism and for help in serious financial difficulties.  Please also pray for our friend and his cooperative to be successful.  Prayers also please for family who does not share his faith. And please pray for our friend's protection from persecution in a place where standing up for the truth and not following the crowd results in suspicion and shunning.
  • For Kim and her family, and for her daughter's deliverance from a cult.
  • *For Leigh, for protection and deliverance from a dangerous neighbor, and for help in restoring her home and home situation.

  • For Ryan's salvation.
  • For help for Steven in successfully carrying a heavy and difficult academic load in preparing to minister to the body of Christ.
  • For the opening of Daniel's heart to the gospel and his salvation in Jesus Christ.
  • For Becca's family, for help with serious medical and financial troubles (praise here for answered prayers!).
  • For the salvation of John's two unbelieving sons.
  • For Charles' granddaughter, for the perseverance of her faith and for her deliverance from drug addiction, and for the salvation and spiritual growth of another granddaughter.
  • For Bogdan's salvation and receptiveness to the truth.
  • For Clinton, for spiritual growth [praise here for completing his degree and landing a good job!].
  • *For Chris, for the preservation of his job in the midst of budget cuts [praise here! Victory! Job retained!], and for his health and protection on the job. *Please also pray for Lisa's health.
  • For the salvation of Mitch's wife.
  • *For help for Sam's recovery from cancer and deliverance from extreme insomnia.  *Please also pray for the salvation of his son in law.
  • For Cary, for encouragement in persecution abroad, and for health and strength (praise here for answered prayer as our brother has managed to find employment as a teacher).

  • For Ania, for her salvation and spiritual growth in the truth.
  • *For our friend Odii, for help in finding a way to make a living without compromising his principles in a difficult field (social media). *Please pray for the success of his business as a base for ministering the Word.   **Please also pray for his fiancée and her family for protection from violence in the place where they live.

  • For Alex' and Chris' mother, for her salvation and the opening of her heart to the truth.
  • For our friend Carmen, for the protection of her granddaughters, and her encouragement and strength in negotiating a difficult trial; for her boy Josh's recovery and for encouragement for him to turn to the Lord for help.
  • *For Amber's continued spiritual growth and encouragement, and for her healing.  Please also pray for the salvation of her grandmother.
  • *For Sande's encouragement and perseverance in proclaiming and teaching the Word in the face of significant resistance. Please pray also for his health and the health of his mother and grandmother (suffering from aplastic anaemia and spinal stenosis respectively).

  • For Christine, for help and protection in a longstanding debate with several JWs, and for Melina and Sandra, for their salvation and deliverance from the WT.
  • For Christian, for the prospering of his consultancy in order to have more time to prepare for and engage in ministry [praise here!  please continue to pray for the success of his business].
  • For Kim, for help for her and her family in struggling with severe financial pressures and for moving forward with spiritual growth.
  • For Brooke, for peace and blessing her marriage, and for her spiritual growth.
  • For Filip, for salvation in Jesus Christ and spiritual growth thereafter.
  • For Mélanie, for her healing and help in finishing her degree under difficult circumstances, and for encouragement to move forward with spiritual growth.
  • For Jeffery, for the salvation of his two sons.
  • *Dorota went to be with the Lord yesterday (5/27/19); please pray for the salvation of her two daughters.

  • *For old friend and seminary colleague, pastor Mark, for his healing from cancer and its complications *[praise here, as he is in full recovery mode at present!].
  • For Peter, for the deliverance of his family from cult influence and to be led to salvation in Jesus Christ, and for help in meeting serious financial challenges. Please also pray for his son's return to faith and for the salvation of his grandchildren.
  • For comfort and encouragement for Charles and his family in the recent loss of wife and mother.
  • For the salvation of Emma's family and loved ones.
  • For Kamil, a new believer, who has been unjustly accused because of his family's political activities.

  • More E-mails:       Complete archive of previous emails:  Ichthys' Emails

    Believers in the World IX

    Biblical Interpretation XI

    Salvation, the Gospel, and Unbelief VI

    Cults and Christianity XII

    Eschatology Issues XXVII

    Theological Questions III

    New Testament Interpretation VIII

    Eschatology Issues XXVI

    Old Testament Interpretation XIV

    Politics versus Spiritual Growth IV

    Old Testament Interpretation XIII

    Salvation, the Gospel, and Unbelief V

    Biblical Interpretation X

    Fighting the Fight X

    Politics versus Spiritual Growth III

    Baptism: Water and Spirit IX

    Biblical Anthropology VIII

    Faith, Forgiveness, Salvation IV

    Genesis Questions IV

    Fighting the Fight IX

    Eschatology Issues XXV

    Angelic Issues IX

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry VII

    Legalism, Past, Present and Future IV

    New Testament Interpretation VII

    Eschatology Issues XXIV: the 'Rapture' et al.

    Believers in the World VIII: Coping with Family

    Salvation, the Gospel, and Unbelief IV

    Believers in the World VII

    Culture and Christianity XX

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations XI

    Cults and Christianity XI

    Spiritual Gifts and False Teaching

    Angelic Issues VIII

    Christology Questions X

    Believers in the World VI

    Genesis Gap: Questions and Answers VI

    Atheism and Evangelism

    New Testament Interpretation VI

    Old Testament Interpretation XII

    Fighting the Fight VIII

    Spiritual Warfare VI

    Sin, Faith and Suffering

    Prayer, Vows and Confession

    Eschatology Issues XXIII

    Apologetics, Ministry and False Teaching

    Culture and Christianity XIX

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry VI

    Church: The Biblical Ideal versus the Contemporary Reality II

    Salvation, the Gospel, and Unbelief III

    Fighting the Fight VII

    The Holy Spirit: Pneumatology Questions VI

    Interpretation, Application, Exegesis and Ministry

    Biblical Anthropology VII

    Baptism: Water and Spirit VIII

    Text and Canon

    New Testament Interpretation V

    Grace versus Law II

    Apathy, Atheism, Cults and False Teaching

    All about Ichthys III

    The Battlefield Within II: Combating anger, fear, blaming God, blaming others

    Salvation Questions III

    Faith, Forgiveness, Salvation III

    Eschatology Issues XXII

    Cults and Christianity X

    Cults and Christianity IX

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry V

    Fighting the Fight VI

    Marriage and the Bible VII

    Culture and Christianity XVIII: Substance Use and Abuse, Tithing, Politics and Environmentalism, Friendship, Self-Defense, and Work

    Paul the Apostle: Aspects of his Life and Ministry II

    Old Testament Interpretation XI

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ VII

    The Transitional Era of the Book of Acts and its Unique Spiritual Gifts

    Old Testament Interpretation X

    Marriage and the Bible VI

    The pre-Trib 'Rapture': so called 'imminence' and other false proofs refuted

    Encouragement, Spiritual Testing and Spiritual Growth III

    Eschatology Issues XXI

    Eschatology Issues XX

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations X

    Legalism, Past and Present III: Sabbath observance, tithing, dietary regulations and other issues

    Believers in the World V: Ministering, Mutually Encouraging, and Coping with Family, Politics, and Health

    Salvation, the Gospel, and Unbelief II

    Old Testament Interpretation IX

    Christology Questions IX: Christ and His Church

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ VI: Perseverance

    Science and the Bible III

    Faith, Forgiveness, Salvation II

    Eschatology Issues XIX

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry IV

    Bible Interpretation IX

    Marriage and the Bible V

    Gospel Questions XIII

    Biblical Anthropology VI

    Cults and Christianity VIII

    Fighting the Fight V: Dispatches from the Laodicean 'Front' II

    Old Testament Interpretation VIII

    Eschatology Issues XVIII

    Spiritual Growth III

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry III

    Sin, Guilt, and Salvation II

    New Testament Interpretation IV

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations IX

    Peace, Reconciliation and Salvation

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ V: Soldiers of the Cross

    Baptism: Water and Spirit VII

    Faith, Forgiveness, Salvation

    Cults and Christianity VII

    Old Testament Interpretation VII

    Sin, Guilt, and Salvation

    Eschatology Issues XVII

    Dangers of the Pre-Trib Rapture False Teaching

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations VIII

    The Infinity, Magnitude, Glory, Providence and Plan of God

    Eschatology Issues XVI

    Gospel Questions XII

    The Bible and the Canon: The Inspired Word of God IV

    Nephilim, Antichrist, the False Prophet and the Mark of the Beast

    Angelic Issues VII

    Prayer Questions II

    The Trinity and Messianic Legalism II

    Annihilationism, Universalism, Hell and Judgment II

    Atheism and Apologetics II

    Politics versus Spiritual Growth II

    Culture and Christianity XVII: Humor, Self-Defense, Pacifism and War

    Culture and Christianity XVI: Alcohol, Money and Dietary Issues

    Dreams, Visions, Miracles, Exorcism, Tongues, and False Prophets

    Calvinism, Catholicism and Ichthys

    Apologetics, Legalism, Cults and Philosophy

    The Law, Legalism, and Rome

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ IV

    Genesis Gap: Questions and Answers V

    Faith and Free Will in Trial and Testing

    Free Will and God's WILL in Salvation

    Jobs, Money, Finances and Giving: What does the Bible say?

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry II

    Eschatology Issues XV

    Dealing with Sin and Guilt

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ III

    Preparing for Tribulation II

    It is Better on the Other Side

    Family Matters

    Christology Questions VIII: The Deity, Humanity and Life of Christ

    The Lives of the Apostles and the Writing of the New Testament II

    Biblical People and Places: Eve, Cain, Noah, Abraham, Hagar, Esau, Joseph and more

    Biblical Anthropology V: Body, Spirit and 'Soul', Present and Future

    Satan, Antichrist, the False Prophet and the Mark of the Beast

    The Holy Spirit: Pneumatology Questions V

    Prophets, Prophecy, and False Prophets

    Christology Questions VII: The Life and Spiritual Death of Christ and Holy Communion

    The Bible and the Canon: The Inspired Word of God III

    Culture and Christianity XV: The Bible vs. some Sensitive Social and Political Issues

    Christology Questions VI: Christophany, Deity and the Spiritual Death of Christ

    Encouragement, Spiritual Testing and Spiritual Growth II

    Spiritual Warfare V

    Cults and Christianity VI

    Fighting the Fight IV: Dispatches from the Laodicean 'Front'

    Eschatology Issues XIV

    The Gift of Tongues: Part 3

    The Resurrection Body and our Eternal Future II

    Gospel Questions XI

    Blindness, Disease and Healing

    Ministry and Preparation for Ministry

    Atheism and Apologetics

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations VII

    Church History II

    Salvation Questions II

    Culture and Christianity XIV

    Encouragement, Spiritual Testing and Spiritual Growth

    Judaism and Legalism in the church-visible

    Bible Interpretation VIII

    Apostasy, Sin and Salvation

    Confronting False Groups and False Teaching III

    Eschatology Issues XIII: Time of the Tribulation and the Resurrection, Antichrist and the Mark of the Beast

    Salvation Questions

    Theological Questions II

    The Holy Spirit: Pneumatology Questions IV

    Old Testament Interpretation VI

    More Questions on the Book of Hebrews: Melchizedek, Esau, and the 'Impossibility' of Being Restored

    Believers in the World IV: Making Godly Choices vs. Following Man-Made Rules

    Guilt, Sin and Victory through Spiritual Growth

    Confronting False Groups and False Teaching II

    Cults and Christianity V

    Politics versus Spiritual Growth

    Christian Struggle, Perseverance and Deliverance

    The Bible and the Natural World

    Sin, Fear and Forgiveness

    An Extended Conversation on the 'Unpardonable' Sin

    Eternal Realities: Real Heaven, Real Hell

    Eschatology Issues XII: Babylon, Armageddon, Israel, 2026

    Ministers, Ministry, and Preparation for Ministry

    Evangelism in Principle and Practice II

    Gospel Questions X: Glory, John the baptist, the hidden talent, the Kingdom of God

    Old Testament Interpretation V: The Flight to Egypt, the Virgin Birth, Jonathan's Choice, Tyre in Prophecy

    Matthew Questions, verse by verse

    Marriage and the Bible IV

    Politics and Political Action on the Eve of the Tribulation

    Bible Versions, Bible Translation, and Bible Reading IV

    Spiritual Growth II

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ II

    Baptism: Water and Spirit VI

    Science and the Bible II

    Genesis Gap: Questions and Answers IV

    Culture and Christianity XIII: College, Dating, Marriage and Friendship

    Eschatology Issues XI: Trumpets, the Millennium, the Time of the Tribulation and the Resurrection.

    Sin according to the Bible: Hamartiology II

    Bible Interpretation VII

    Salvation and Sin

    Bible Interpretation VI

    Eschatology Issues X: Strong delusion, blood moons, 2026, imminence, apostasy & the mark of the beast

    Angelic Issues VI: Cherubs, Guardians, Elders and 'gods'

    Sin according to the Bible: Hamartiology I

    Bible Chronology, Aramaic and Interpretation

    Christians and Mental Illness

    Culture and Christianity XII

    Prayer Questions

    The Trinity and Messianic Legalism

    Anger, Anthropopathism, Eternity and Divine Motives

    Unbelievers, Free Will, and the Plan of God II

    Christology Questions V: the Baptism, Temptation and Spiritual Death of Christ

    The Bible and the Canon: The Inspired Word of God II

    Believers in the World III: Prosperity Gospel, Tithing, Cults and Legalism

    Gospel Questions IX

    Faith, Hope and Love: Virtue in Spiritual Warfare

    Trinity Questions II

    Some Sensitive Topics IV

    Finding a Church – or Something Better? II

    New Testament Interpretation III

    Faith vs. History, Archaeology, Philosophy

    Believers in the World II: Confronting False Groups and False Teaching

    The 144,000 and the Two Witnesses of the Tribulation

    Biblical Anthropology IV: Soul and Spirit, Image and Likeness, Book of Life, Life at Birth, Accountability and Infant Salvation.

    Spiritual Growth

    Predestination, Free Will and False Teaching

    Christophany and the Trinity

    Love, Marriage, and Divorce: Marriage and the Bible III

    Interpreting Dreams and Analyzing Prophetic Claims

    Culture and Christianity XI: Lying, Suicide, Tattoos, Investing, Drugs, Music, Family, Dating, Politics

    Bible Versions, Bible Translation, and Bible Reading III

    Eschatology Issues IX: Amillennialism, Trumpets, and the Seven Days

    Spiritual Warfare IV: Demons, Demonic Influences and Satanic Methodology

    Satan's Fall from Grace

    Atheism and Gnosticism: Denying the Truth about God

    Sin, Salvation and Forgiveness: Claiming the Mental and Spiritual High-Ground

    Struggling with Salvation . . . and Relatives

    Legalism, Past and Present II

    Ministry and the Ichthys Ministry II

     All about Ichthys II: Mutual Encouragement in the Lord

    The Book of Job and Christian Suffering

    Genesis Gap: Questions and Answers III: Creationism, Neanderthals, Fossil Record

    Christology Questions IV: Jesus' Birth, Baptism, Early Life, and Kenosis

    Third Party Testimony III: Near Death Experiences, Revelations and Tongues

    Third Party Testimony II: Charismatic Claims of Visions, Dreams and Prophecy

    Third Party Testimony I: We Believe God and His Word – Not People

    God Heals - in His way (not our way)

    Sanctification, Separation and Restraint

    Finding a Church – or Something Better?

    Culture and Christianity X:  Military Service, College, Politics, and Race Relations

    Contemporary Churches and Women Preachers

    Culture and Christianity IX: Politics, Tithing, Music, Crucifixes, Alcohol, and Gambling

    Marriage and the Bible II

    Biblical Anthropology III: Soul versus Spirit, "Soul Sleep", and the Interim Body

    New Testament Interpretation II: Who is equal? Grace in vain. Unequally yoked.

    Aspects of the Crucifixion II: Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday?

    Aspects of the Crucifixion I: Carrying the cross, trials and rooster crow.

    Salvation Lost and Found

    The Canon: Content, Chronology, and Criticism

    Spiritual Warfare III: Peter's 'Angel', Saul's Death, and Strange Events

    Old Testament Interpretation IV: Gehazi's Leprosy, Tyre's Destruction, and Immanuel

    Nephilim, Fallen Angels, and Genesis 6

    Gospel Questions VIII

    Sin, Atonement and Forgiveness II

    Sin, Atonement and Forgiveness I

    Annihilationism, Universalism, Hell and Judgment

    When is the Rapture?

    Noah, the Flood, and the Nature of Animals

    The Tribulation: Timing of, Preparation for, and Conditions in

    Eschatology Issues VIII: Revelation, Tribulation and Judgment

    Antichrist: the Mark, the Number, and the Identification of the Beast

    Satan's Revolt and the Tribulation to Come

    Old Testament Interpretation III: The Name 'Jacob', the Mark of Cain, Jeshrun.

    Old Testament Interpretation II: Urim and Thummim, the Bronze Serpent, the Ark.

    Being Saved: Security, Apostasy, and the Sin unto Death

    Fighting the Fight III: False Teaching, Local Churches, and the Truth

    Fighting the Fight II: Struggling with Sin, Doubt, and Severe Testing

    Fighting the Fight I: Accountability, Faith, Sin, Forgiveness, and Reward

    Dispensations, Covenants, Israel and the Church II

    Dispensations, Covenants, Israel and the Church I

    Witnessing: Cults and Christianity II

    Witnessing: Cults and Christianity I

    Ministry and the Ichthys Ministry

    Biblical Interpretation V

    Baptism: Water and Spirit V

    Spiritual Growth, Church-Searching and "Discipling"

    Unbelievers, Free Will, and the Plan of God

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations VI

    Baptism: Water and Spirit IV

    Paganism, Idolatry, Mythology and the Occult

    The Lives of the Apostles and the Writing of the New Testament

    The Essence of God and Deity of Christ

    Parables and their Interpretation

    The Meaning and Purpose of True Christian Assembly

    Marriage and the Bible

    Spiritual 'ups' and 'downs'

    1st John: Text and Interpretation

    Eschatology Issues VII

    Perseverance in the latter days of Laodicea

    Babylon USA?

    Baptism: Water and Spirit III

    Prayer: the Persistence, Purpose and Power of.

    Paul the Apostle: Aspects of his Life and Ministry

    Gospel Questions VII: The Wedding at Cana et al.

    Israel, 'Lost Tribes' and the Star of David

    Israel and Antichrist in Eschatology

    Explaining and Defending the Trinity and the Person of Christ II

    The Holy Spirit: Pneumatology Questions III

    Culture and Christianity VIII

    The Geography of Heaven, Hades and 'Hell'.

    Eschatology Issues VI

    Bible Interpretation IV

    Legalism, Past and Present

    The Resurrection Body and our Eternal Future.

    Christ the First-Born, High Priest in the Order of Melchizedek.

    Bible Versions, Bible Translation, and Bible Reading II

    Bible Versions, Bible Translation, and Bible Reading

    Hermeneutics, Typology, Christophany, Theophany and Anthropopathism.

    No, Hebrews does not teach that you lost your salvation.

    Gospel Questions VI: the Long Ending of Mark et al.

    Judas and the Betrayal of Christ

    Doubting Salvation and Questions of Sin

    The 144,000: God's Seal vs. the Mark of the Beast

    Atheism: Putting Truth to Death

    War in Heaven II

    The Holy Spirit: Pneumatology Questions II

    War in Heaven

    The Holy Spirit: Pneumatology Questions I

    The Law, Love, Faith-Rest and Messianism

    Paul and the Law

    Genesis Questions III

    Sin and Salvation, Confession and Forgiveness

    Have I Lost My Salvation? (III)

    The Battlefield Within: Fighting the inner spiritual Struggle.

    Putting Christ in Christmas: Loving Jesus, the Star and the Magi, Wonderful Counselor.

    Old Testament Interpretation: Moses and Zipporah, David's disastrous Census, the Destruction of the Midianites, et al.

    Healing, Miracles, and Dreams: Sorting the Wheat from the Chaff by biblical Means

    153 Fish: Explaining some Difficult New Testament Passages

    Kenosis: Our Lord's Self-Limitation during the 1st Advent

    Biblical Anthropology II: 'Soul sleep', & dichotomy vs. trichotomy

    Biblical Anthropology I: The Nature of Human Beings and Human Life according to the Bible.

    Genesis Gap: Questions and Answers II.

    Culture and Christianity VII: Jury Duty, Witnessing, Biometry, Military Service et al.

    Culture and Christianity VI: Halloween, Holidays, Aliens, and Christian Applications.

    Angelic Issues V: Michael, the Angel of the Lord, Christophany, demons, cherubs, and Satan's revolt.

    Angelic Issues IV:  Satan's Revolt in the Plan of God.

    New Testament Interpretation: Melchizedek, 'Forsake not Assembly', 'Women Remain Silent', Water-Baptism, Tongues, Prophecy, Intervention of Departed Believers.

    Lost my salvation II?

    All about Ichthys: Mutual Encouragement in the Lord. 

    Genesis Questions.

    Fallen Angels, Demons, Nephilim, and the Devil's Methodology.

    End Times Interpretation II.

    Salvation, the Gospel, and Unbelief.

    The Bible and the Canon: The Inspired Word of God.

    End Times Interpretation.

    Grace versus Law.

    Communion and the Spiritual Death of Christ.

    Sinlessness and 1st John.

    Israelology, Anti-Semitism, the Remnant, Gentiles, Lost Tribes, Jewish Myths.

    "Soul Sleep" versus our true Heavenly State.

    Christology Questions III: The Angel of the Lord, the Lamb Slain, monogenes.

    Angelic Issues III: Demons, Satan, Elders, Female Angels and Guardians.

    Against Universalism III: Unbelievers in the Plan of God.

    Waters Above, the Firmament, and the Genesis Gap.

    Marriage "Matters".

    In Need of Guidance and Encouragement.

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations V.

    Servants, Slaves, Disciples, and Ministers.

    Baptism: Water and Spirit II.

    Bible Interpretation III: David's Anointing, Stephen versus Genesis, Triplets, This People, and more.

    Evangelism in Principle and Practice.

    Scripture versus Personal Experience.

    Calvinism, Covenants and Catholicism.

    Culture and Christianity V: Temporal Authority vs. Biblical Application.

    False Doctrine of Absolute Eternal Security III.

    The Dangers of Messianic Legalism IV: Unclean and Impure?

    Things to Come III: The Wrath of God and the Fate of the Beast's Army.

    God Works All Things Together for Good.

    The 7 Trumpets, the 7 Kings, Nephilim, Antichrist and Revived Rome.

    The Coming Tribulation and the Kingdom of God.

    Sin, Confession and Forgiveness.

    Mutual Encouragement in Christ.

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations IV.

    Culture and Christianity IV: Doing one's job as 'unto the Lord', the peril's of 'heroic medicine', Christian perspectives on legalizing marijuana, when lying is not a sin, and when life begins.

    Eschatology Issues V: "It is not for you to know the times or the seasons".

    Ichthys and Contemporary Christianity.

    Gospel Questions V: Help my Unbelief, Respecting our Enemies, etc.

    The Two Witnesses of the Tribulation: Moses and Elijah.

    The Apostles, the Jerusalem Council, and Legalism then and now.

    Aspects of the Christian Walk: Gambling, Lying, Christmas, Judging, Worrying, et al.

    No Rapture

    Believers in the World: Using our Free Will to Respond to the Lord

    Christology Questions II: The Serpent Lifted and the Cross, Jesus' Infallibility, Destroy this Temple, the Sign Spoken Against, His Glorification, the Spirit's Anointing, and the Necessity for His Humanity.

    Paul's Jerusalem Error, Worshiping Truly, the Priesthood of the Believer, and Peter's Vision of the Impure Food

    Christian Trials and Testing

    Gospel Questions IV: The Prophet, the rich man in Hades, Peter's wife, the 'eleven' and the 'twelve' apostles, 'the world could not contain' (Jn.21:25), and progressive revelation.

    Eschatology Issues IV: Israeli politics, 'This Generation', Signs of the Times, the Beast presently alive?, 'Flee Babylon', Preparing for the Tribulation, and 'was, is not, will be'.

    John's Water-Baptism versus the Baptism of the Holy Spirit

    Eschatology Issues III: Over-focusing on Revelation, the Seven Churches, Enoch versus Elijah, and the Symbolism of the Menorah

    The Purpose of Chronicles, Cyrus the Persian, the Chronology of the Exodus Plagues, Qumran and Isaiah, Nebuchadnezzar's Madness, and Jeremiah 31:22, "A Woman will Embrace a Man".

    Aaron and the Golden Calf, Mount Zion, Moses and Zipporah, the high priest's attire, and the ark of the covenant.

    Aspects of the Genesis Curse on Animals, the Tree of Knowing Good and Evil, Jacob Wrestling with the Angel of the Lord, and Kainam.

    The City of David, the Star of David, Solomon's Wisdom, and the Song of Solomon.

    The Israelites at Kadesh and 'not entering the Land of Promise'.

    Genesis Gap: Questions and Answers.

    Sin and Spiritual Transformation.

    Cults and Christianity IV

    Cults and Christianity III

    Cults and Christianity II

    Cults and Christianity.

    One Baptism: the True Meaning of Peter's Words at Acts 2:38.

    Apostasy and the Sin unto Death, the Conscience and Sanctification.

    The Plan of God and Individual Salvation (excerpt from BB 4B)

    In Your Anger, do not Sin:  Ephesians 4:26 and the Sin Nature

    Bible Interpretation II: Easter, Abiathar, the Hyssop-Blood Cross, Baal, the Scarlet Thread, Names of God, Adiaphoria, and Mezentius.

    Spiritual Warfare II

    Culture and Christianity III

    Have I Lost my Salvation?

    On the Firing Line: Encouragement in Christian Trials

    Eschatology and the Old Testament

    Prayer and our Walk with Jesus.

    Issues of Canonicity II: Aramaic, Enoch, KJV, and the Pastorals

    Bible Vocabulary and Bible Word Studies

    Satan, his Demons, and the Gnostics

    Antichrist: Alive and Well and Living on Planet Earth?

    The Nature of Angels

    Our Eternal Future: Life after Death for Believers in Jesus Christ

    Giants and Nephilim, Sumerian Myths, and Sea Monsters

    Dreams and Visions II

    The Golden Rule

    The Divinity of Jesus Christ

    Free-Will Faith and the Will of God

    Some Sensitive Topics III

    The Spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy: explaining James 4:5.

    Faith: What is it?

    The Seven-Fold Spirit of God.

    Free-Will Faith in the Plan of God.

    Putting the Word of God First.

    Free-Will Faith.

    The False Doctrine of "Soul Sleep" II.

    The False Doctrine of Absolute Eternal Security II.

    The Plan of God

    The Dangers of Messianic Legalism III

    The Dangers of Messianic Legalism II

    The Dangers of Messianic Legalism.

    The Gift of Tongues: Part 2

    The Gift of Tongues: Part 1

    Mega-Churches, Emergent Christianity, Spirituality and Materialism.

    Epignosis, Christian Epistemology, and Spiritual Growth.

    Jephthah's Daughter, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage.

    Christian Unity and Divisiveness.

    Death, Martyrdom and Resurrection.

    Blessing, Cursing, and Prayer.

    Freedom and Responsibility.

    Fighting the Good Fight of Faith.

    Only-Begotten, Mother-of-God, On-this-Rock: English-only Interpretation is Dangerous.

    The Greek Text of the New Testament and some Issues of Textual Criticism.

    What does the name 'Christian' mean?

    Some Jewish Issues.

    Christians Beware: Internet Frauds and the Need for Spiritual Discernment (part 2).

    Christians Beware: Internet Frauds and the Need for Spiritual Discernment.

    Sin and Forgiveness.

    Spring Special: The Millennial Regathering and Purging of Israel.

    Life Begins at Birth.

    Culture and Christianity II

    Culture and Christianity I

    The Saved and the Unsaved

    Last Things and Last Judgments

    The Local Church and Personal Ministry IV

    The Local Church and Personal Ministry III

    The Local Church and Personal Ministry II

    The Local Church and Personal Ministry I

    More on Antichrist and his Kingdom

    Antichrist and Babylon

    Prophecy Questions.

    Theological Questions

    Heavenly Things.

    Dysfunctional Churches.

    Some Sensitive Topics II.

    Christmas Special: The Judgment and Reward of the Church.

    What is God's Will?


    Thanksgiving Leftovers.

    Combating Legalism VI

    Combating Legalism V

    Combating Legalism IV

    Combating Legalism III

    Combating Legalism II

    Combating Legalism I

    Aspects of the False Doctrine of Institutional Security

    Chronological Order of the Books of the Bible II

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations III

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations II

    Biblical Languages, Texts and Translations I

    Gospel Questions III: Least in the kingdom, Millstones, Pennies, Pebbles, Babes, Rhaka, Tallits, and the Crown of Thorns.

    Gospel Questions II: Jesus' Turning Water to Wine, Sweating Blood, Walking on Water, Washing the Disciples' Feet, and the Promise of Freedom."

    Things to Come II: Genesis Rapture, Daniel's Weeks, Seven Kings, Signs of the Apocalypse, Tribulational Suffering, Seven Seals, the Bride of Christ, and Mystery Babylon.

    Things to Come: The Half Hour, the 144,000, the Book of Life, Rewards, the Beast's Kingdom, the Great Apostasy, and the so-called 'Partial Rapture'.

    Satan and the Existence of Evil.

    The Holy Spirit: Blasphemy against, Restraining Ministry, and Gender.

    Spiritual Gifts and Spiritual Growth

    Christian Love, the Golden Rule, Christian Military Service and Self-Defense.

    Issues of Canonicity: Apocrypha, Enoch, and Inspiration.

    Church: The Biblical Ideal versus the Contemporary Reality.

    Numbers, Letters, and the Mark of the Beast.

    Gospel Questions I: Jesus' Life, the Gospels and Cherubs, and who Wrote Matthew.

    More Questions about Genesis.

    Naaman, Nero, Nineveh, and Senacharib.

    The False Doctrine of Absolute Eternal Security.

    Choosing Hell: Questions about Salvation and the Love of God.

    The Chronology of the End.

    The Route of the Israelites in Crossing the Red Sea.

    Some Issues of Transmission, Translation, and Transliteration: The Camel and the Needle, etc.

    Aspects of the Life of Christ: Jesus' siblings, the man born blind, et al.

    Jesus is God and man.

    Jesus is God.

    Redemption, the Blood of Christ, Christ our Passover, and The Passion of the Christ.

    Eschatology Issues II: Angelic bodies, heaven and hell, Satan and the Nephilim, etc.

    The Book of Job and Biblical Interpretation.

    Some Questions about Eternity.

    Who Controls our Thoughts and Emotions?

    The Day of the Lord.

    Sleep as a Euphemism for Death.

    Literal Hell.

    Christ's Preaching to the Spirits in Hell (1Pet.3:18-20), & Michael's Rebuke of Satan (2Pet.2:10-11 ).

    Recovering from Sin.

    The Timing of the Resurrection.

    Dispensations, the Church, the Rapture, and the Destruction of the Universe.

    Christianity versus Contemporary Kitsch.

    Purpose Driven Life, Oprah's New Age Religion, et al.

    Lot, Esau, and Cain: Learning through Negative Examples.

    Against Universalism II: Only Believers are Saved.

    Against Universalism I: Free Will and the Image of God.

    Courage in the Fight.

    Demon Influences.

    Sabbath Questions.

    The Seven Edens and the Eden of Adam and Eve.

    Opposition to the Genesis Gap from the Creation Research Institute et al.

    Mary 'Full of Grace'?

    Changing the Name of God?

    The Beast:  Some Questions about Antichrist.

    The Book of Revelation:  Some Questions.

    Red Hot or Lukewarm? Bible Teaching versus Sermonizing.

    The Last Judgment and the Great White Throne.

    Baptism:  Water and Spirit.

    Spiritual  Marathons.

    Christology:  Some Questions on the Life of Christ.

    Regarding Ichthys.

    Train up a Child in the Way he should Go.

    War, History, and Politics.

    Unbelief and its Consequences.

    Dreams and Visions.

    Explaining and Defending the Trinity and the Person of Christ.

    Free Will and Faith under Pressure.

    Angelic Issues II.

    Science and the Bible.

    Bible Interpretation I:  Academics, Versions et al.

    Faith in the Word of God: the Basis of all True Worship.

    Aspects of the Resurrection II.

    Faith and Encouragement in the midst of Fiery Trials.

    Some Sensitive Topics.

    Jethro, Amenhotep, Iraq, the Catacombs, and the KJV.

    Eschatology Issues: The Fig Tree, Ezekiel 38, Joel 3, and the Trumpets.

    Christ the Rock, the Rooster's Crow, and the Cross.

    Applying Faith II: Production, Forgiveness, Circumcision, Truth over People.

    Applying Faith: Eating, Drinking, and Vacation.

    The Tree of Life, Communion, and the Virgin Birth.

    Grammar Questions.

    Can Prayer Be Offered From Heaven? & Some Genesis Questions.

    Walking the Path of Faith through the Light of the Word of God.

    Salvation on the battlefield, truth revealed to infants, and damnation.

    Preparing for Tribulation.

    Divine Sovereignty and Divine Judgment.

    God's Free Gift of Salvation.

    Should Christians wear Jewelry?

    The Lord's Prayer.

    The Events Surrounding the Birth of Christ.

    Cremation or Burial?

    Zechariah, Demon Possession, Marriage, Spiritual Experiences, and Bible Prophecy.

    No Grounds for Divorce?

    The Shape of the Universe, Hominids, and the Genesis Gap.

    Taking Personal Responsibility: Interest, Bankruptcy, Gambling, and Employment.

    The Seven Churches, the Judgment Seat of Christ,  and other issues in Eschatology.

    The Canonicity of the book of Hebrews.

    Great White Throne, the Last Judgment, and the Outer Darkness.

    Political Action versus Biblical Christianity.

    Study Tools and Methodologies.


    The Gospel and the Kingdom of God.

    Pursuing a Deeper Relationship with Jesus and Christian Epistemology.

    The Origin and the Danger of the Pre-Tribulational Rapture Theory.

    The Divinity of the Spirit and the Percentage of those who are Saved.

    Should Christians ever consider getting a lawyer?

    Pastoral Authority, Popes, Pat Robertson, and Pelagianism.

    Some Questions on Church Polity.

    Apostles and Evangelism

    Luther, Arminius, Calvin, Kant, Ironside, Tutu and Thieme.

    Angelic Issues.

    Transmutation, Resuscitation, and Resurrection.

    Is the Soul a tertium quid?

    More on the Documentary Hypothesis and More on the Rapture.

    Enoch's Walk with God and Some Questions in the Gospels.

    The Influence of the Renaissance and Rationalism on the Church and Cutting off Arms in Malachi 2:3.

    Sabbath Observance.

    1st John 5:20 & Romans 6:23.

    Eschatology Questions.

    Baptism and Following Jesus.

    Where is Armageddon?

    Assurance of Salvation.

    The Cross, Sin, and the Devil in God's Plan.

    More on: Spiritual Gifts; Hats & Hair; the Age of Accountability.

    Daniel 9:25 and Daniel 11:30.

    Who will populate earth during the Millennium?  and  Asking for Wisdom: James 1:5.

    Was Judas Saved?, The Gospel of Judas, and Issues of Canonicity.

    Is 'My Son' Israel or Jesus in Hosea 11:1?  &  How do you Prove Sin to Someone?

    Did Matthew Write his Gospel in Hebrew?

    Christian Crowns, Pagan Names, and the Time of the Cock-Crow.

    Child-like Faith, Mark vs. Matthew, the Mahdi, and 'Who was with God in the Beginning?

    True Orthodoxy and False Creeds.

    Foot-washing, Bitter Herbs, Baptism, and Borrowed Faith.

    All Things Charismatic.

    Friday versus Thursday Crucifixion.

    Jesus' Cursing of the Fig Tree, Apostasy, and 'Feng Shui'.

    The Genesis Serpent, Using "it" to refer to the baby Jesus, and more on Tattoos.

    Combating Gnosticism.

    Resisting the Devil.

    Why did Jesus choose John over James to take care of His mother Mary?

    Antichrist's 'desire of women' in Daniel 11:37 et al.

    Do recent catastrophes have a divine origin?

    Does God really want us to be sick and poor?  Revisiting the prosperity gospel.

    Why did our Lord Jesus arise from the tribe of Judah?

    What will our relationship be in heaven with children who died young?

    The baptism of the Holy Spirit as distinct from speaking in tongues.

    The Grammar behind the Genesis Gap.

    The Great White Throne Judgment.

    Moses and Zipporah.

    The Victory of Faith.

    Does God's choice of us eliminate our free will?

    Why does God allow bad things to happen?

    The Bible as "divine", roof prayer, and tattoos.

    Character in Hebrews 1:3, et al.

    Exorcism, et al.

    "Are the children of unbelievers lost if they die before receiving Christ?"

    How not to get "left behind".

    "Is baptism necessary for salvation?"

    "The nature of life after death."

    "The personality of the Holy Spirit."

    "The dragon of Revelation 12 and the talking idol of Revelation 13."

    "Bound by Satan in Luke 13:16, language and the Tower of Babel, Daniel's 70th week, and the number 12."

    "Infirmities and Diseases in Matthew 8:17"

    "The Leftover Baskets of Bread and Fish in John 6."

    "Waiting for the Ascension" and "Amos 4:11".

    Why was Canaan cursed?

    Should Christians have a competitive attitude?

    John "leapt for joy" in the womb - or did he?

    Satanic Influence in Video Games and Television.

    Moving Mountains:  Matthew 21:21

    Not a hair shall be lost? Luke 21:16 versus Luke 21:18.

    The reign of antichrist:  7 years or 3 and 1/2 years?

    The Trinity in Scripture.

    The Ark of the Covenant.

    "Doubts about the Nephilim in Genesis 6" and "Ezekiel 9:4 and the Mark of the Beast"

    "Word Counts in the Bible", "Him whom they Pierced (Rev.1:7)", and "Necromancy".

    "Waiting for a Savior" and "The Direction East in the Bible"


    Is there a purgatory according to the Bible?

    Your desire shall be for your husband: Genesis 3:16.

    Have I committed the unforgivable sin?

    Is the local church meant to be a patriarchy?

    Why doesn't the Bible mention all of the prophets of the children of Israel?

    The True "Victorious Life".

    Tohu in Genesis 1:2 and the Cause of the Darkness.

    Why Doesn't God Prevent All Children from Dying?

    Why were Christians being regarded as "evil-doers" in 1st Peter 2:12?

    The Scofield Reference Bible.

    Phylacteries and the Mark of the Beast, and "What about Joseph?"

    Feeling desperate and alone.

    Is Tithing net or gross?

    Assembly of the local church, and Jesus' use of "I AM" from Exodus 3:14 in John 8:58

    The "burden of the Lord" in Jeremiah 23:32-40, and judgment for idle words in Matthew 12:36-37.

    The importance of spiritual resiliency.

    Does God use disease to discipline us?

    Recovering from Cult Exposure.

    Variability in Christian Testing and Personal Tribulation.

    Is there any value to the Apocrypha?

    The Communion Ceremony outside of the local church.

    The Christian Walk, the End, and Tattoos.

    Should Christians honor Sunday as the new Sabbath?

    Chronological order of the books of the Bible.

    Doubt, light, missed opportunities et al.

    Addicted to Sin.

    Corporate prayer in Matthew 18:19:  "when two agree on earth".

    What does the Bible say about humor?

    The value of cumulative prayer.

    Our Heavenly, Pre-Resurrection, Interim State.

    How could a loving God order the destruction of the Canaanites?

    Should Christians observe the Torah?

    Church Polity and three other passages.

    Walking with Jesus.

    Tongues: does 'no man' understand?

    The few saved, the door in heaven, visions of heavenly realities, and Christmas.

    Spiritual Warfare.

    Christian suffering and spiritual maturity.

    Aliens, antichrist, and eschatology.

    Does exceptionally sinful behavior indicate that a Christian has lost salvation?

    Should Christians celebrate Jewish festivals?

    The Deaths of the 12 Disciples / Apostles of Christ.

    Categories of Sin in Psalm 19.

    Some brief answers on a variety of topics.

    Pastoral Support, Pastoral Preparation, and the Purpose of Assembly.

    Eternal Rewards.

    Encouragement, Isaiah 6:11-13, and the Hope of Repentance.

    Questioning the Genesis Gap.

    Dinosaurs, the Nephilim, Noah, et al.

    How much should we pay our pastor?

    More about Women Preachers.

    Is it wrong for me to celebrate Easter?

    The Remnant in Isaiah 6:13.

    The Big Distinction.

    The Day of the Lord in 2nd Peter 3:10.

    The Day of the Lord.

    Church History.

    The Sealing of the Holy Spirit.

    Visions of Angels: Colossians 2:18.

    Waiting on God's timing:  patience in testing.

    "Your Throne, O God":  Psalm 45:6.

    Moses striking the Rock.

    Procreation and Creation.

    What is meant by the phrase "the Lord's footstool"?

    1st Peter 3:3-5

    A conversation about divorce and remarriage.

    Faith in the midst of the fiery trial.

    Hebrews 10:26 again, and two other notes on Arthur Pink and the Greek word diakonos.

    What is the correct translation of Isaiah 59:19?

    Is the star of Acts 7:43 the star of David?

    Some questions about Nimrod and Christmas trees, Tongues, and Healing

    Is Jesus the only One ever to restore sight?

    What happens to people who were born and died prior to the birth of Christ?

    Which is better, the King James Version or the New King James Version?

    What is the minimum necessary to be saved?

    How can we know whose interpretation of the Bible is right (Part 2)?

    How can we know whose interpretation of the Bible is right (Part 1)?

    Psalm 22:1, "My God, My God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?"

    The "Mind of Christ" in 1st Corinthians 2:16

    Simeon and Simon, and the two crows of the rooster

    Ichthys, saints, and the Last Adam

    Does Hebrews 10:26 teach loss of salvation?

    Eternal security: where does one draw the line?

    Who are Gog and Magog in Ezekiel 38-39?

    How did John the baptist come to doubt Jesus?

    Is Jesus literally seated on the throne at God's right hand?

    Are the Celts the Ten Lost Tribes of Israel?

    Whatever happened to the "Genesis Gap"?

    "The baptism which now saves you":  1st Peter 3:21.

    Hebrew Language Study Tools.

    What type of healing is being discussed in Isaiah 53:5?

    The Origin of the Four Seasons

    2nd Peter 3:5: Doubting the Tribulation

    Tent-making and Galatians 6:6

    A Question about Ichthys books

    Biblical Metaphors and Symbolism

    Faith and the Pre-Tribulational "Rapture".

    Faith Healing.

    Bible translation and John 8:58.

    Melchizedek and the high priesthood of Christ:  two questions et alia.

    In need of encouragement.

    The centurion and the Syro-Phoenician woman.

    Who is the Meshiach?

    A Sadducean Question

    What is "heaven" like according to Christian teachings?

    Acts 20:28: Whose Blood?

    1st Corinthians 11:  Hats or Hair?

    Confession of Sin, Fellowship, and the Filling of the Holy Spirit.

    A Miscellany of Questions and Answers (Nineveh, the beast, tongues, demons, Sadam, etc.)

    Some Greek Questions in the Gospels (John 1:3; 2:19; 8:58; Luke 23:43)

    Is Man trichotomous, and does that mean that salvation is three-tiered?

    Questioning the Trinity

    The blood of Christ

    Christ knocking at the door in Revelation 3:20

    The futility of memory without God and eternal life.

    The meaning of Jesus' words, "I am" in John 8:58

    What does the Bible say about Heaven and Hell?

    Peace in 1st Corinthians 14:33

    Salvation and Church Affiliation.

    Several questions on the book of Hebrews.

    Does the Bible prohibit women from preaching or teaching in the Church?

    Should Christian leaders refrain from drinking in public?

    How to use the Bible translations at Ichthys.

    The Worship of Jesus:  a proof of His divinity?

    An Extended Conversation about the Baptism of the Holy Spirit.

    Is water baptism required for Christians today?

    Are health and wealth a part of the gospel?

    Will those in Hades be able to see Christ's return?

    Feelings of Guilt about Remarriage.

    Who are the Ten Lost Tribes of Israel?

    What does "the Word was with God" mean in John 1:1-2?

    Three questions on three verses in Isaiah (Is.21:4; 28:10, & 66:24).

    How important is education for a pastor?

    Does Hebrews 10:26-35 ("deliberate sinning" etc.) mean that a believer can lose his or her salvation?

    Availability and use of Ichthys materials: several questions.

    Is there any difference between demons and fallen angels?

    Confronting atheism.

    Two questions about Judas Iscariot.

    Three Questions about Tattoos and Salvation.

    The Hebrew word for 'one' (`echadh) and the uniqueness of God.

    Did the witch of Endor really conjure up the spirit of Samuel?

    A Question about the "Waters Above".

    Why did God the Father wait so long to send Jesus into the world?

    How does being "slain in the Spirit" relate to being baptized in the Spirit?

    How do you prove the existence of God?

    Where does the Bible teach that Jesus is God?

    Is it ever Justifiable to Tell a Lie (part 2)?

    Seeing double in Matthew.

    Mary, Joseph, and Nazareth.

    Is the Westminster Catechism a Good Reference Tool?

    What does it mean "the spirit returns to God" in Ecclesiastes 12:7?

    Is there any Connection between biblical Gemstones and Moral Characteristics?

    Are Miraculous Gifts Operational Today?

    Jesus Christ in the Old Testament (Christophany: Gen.3:8).

    Can those in organizations which teach "salvation by works" be saved?

    Is "helpmeet" a wrong translation in Genesis 2:20?

    Our will and God's WILL.

    Cast thy Bread upon the Waters:  What do the seven and eight portions in Ecclesiastes 11:2 mean?

    Was Cain Satan's literal "seed"?

    The Demon Possessed Girl in Acts 16:16.

    The "Sin unto Death" in 1st John 5:16.

    Is death just a natural part of human life?

    Communion and the Blood of Christ.

    What does it mean in 1st Corinthians 7:14, "the unbelieving husband is sanctified"?

    The Re-institution of the Feast of Tabernacles in the Millennium.

    Secular Documentation for the Exodus.

    The false doctrine of "soul sleep".

    The Author of Hebrews and Jesus' Perfect Completion of His Mission.

    The Trinity in Isaiah 63:10-15.

    How old was Jesus at the time of His crucifixion and resurrection?

    Five Smooth Stones: 1st Samuel 17:40

    How can we know the Bible is true?

    The name "Jesus".

    Habakkuk's Prosperity Prayer: Habakkuk 3:17-19.

    Jeremiah 31:22: "A Woman shall Compass a Man".

    The New International Version of the Bible and some issues in Bible translation.

    Is "the Prophet" of Deuteronomy 18:18 Muhammad?

    The One True God and the Trinity in the Old Testament.

    Are those in Hebrews 6:4 who "crucify the Son of God afresh" lost?

    Are New Bible Translations Part of a Conspiracy?

    What exactly is the "red heifer prophecy", and how does it relate to the events of the end times?

    Where did the waters of Genesis 1 go?

    Interpreting Revelation

    Sin, Baptism, and the Book of Revelation

    Tithing and the Book of Life

    The Dangers of the Prosperity Gospel.

    English and the Tower of Babel.

    The "Seven Thunders" of Revelation 10:3-4

    The fate of the unrighteous dead in Isaiah 66:24

    Who are the "sons of the kingdom" in Matthew 18:11-12?

    Why does Judah get greater honor than Jerusalem in Zechariah 12:7?

    Are there Female Angels?

    Longevity in the Millennium.

    How is the date of Easter computed?

    What is the meaning of the 1290 days versus the 1335 days in Daniel 12?

    What Church era are we now in?

    The mark of the beast.

    Christophany in the Exodus.

    Can you explain "help my unbelief!" in Mark 9:24?

    What does it mean to "overcome" in Revelation chapters 2 and 3?

    Are women required to wear veils or hats in church?

    Is the world about to come to an end?

    Does the Bible ever describe the earth as being round?

    Pre-, mid-, or post-Tribulation rapture?

    Pearls before swine.

    Recognizing the Messiah.

    The gift of healing.

    The origin and fate of the "giants" in Genesis chapter six.

    Christian suffering - Christian encouragement.

    Is speaking in tongues biblical?

    Is speaking in tongues a sin?

    Can you recommend a good commentary on the book of Romans?

    Aspects of the resurrection.

    The recipients of Peter's epistles.

    Pre- or Post-Tribulation "rapture"?

    The lives of the prophets.

    The old prophet who lied.

    Animal sacrifice in the millennium.

    Is it ever justifiable to lie?

    Who wrote the King James version?

    The meaning of the divine name יהוה.

    The so-called "documentary hypothesis".

    The relationship between the books of Kings and Chronicles.

    David's disastrous census of Israel.

    Aspects of the Unseen Angelic Warfare and 666, the Mark of the Beast.

    The 200 million strong demon army of Revelation 9:13.

    Deliverance through Childbearing in 1st Timothy 2:15?

    Some questions about the Tribulation.

    More on divorce and remarriage.

    Divorce and remarriage.

    The antecedents of ICHTHYS.

    What does it mean to "remember the Sabbath and keep it holy"?

    The manner of the apostle Peter's death.

    Wasn't Matthias the thirteenth apostle?

    Forward progress necessary for salvation and spiritual growth.

    The "seven days" of human history.

    1st John 1:9 and confessing sin.

    ICHTHYS and the role of traditional Christianity.

    Can you recommend a good survey for the Old and New Testaments?

    Where can I find more information on the "Genesis gap"?

    Is Church membership an issue in salvation?

    Can you recommend a church?

    Are these materials available for purchase as books?

    A bit of autobiography.

    What is your opinion of the Abingdon one-volume Bible Commentary?

    What is the significance of the number "20" in the Bible?

    The 144,000 of Revelation chapters 7 and 14.

    What is your view on predestination?

    Who is "true Israel"?

    The chronology of the date 2026.

    Does baptism play a role in being born again?

    Why does the devil have access to God while man cannot stand in His presence?

    The structure of the book of Revelation.

    What is your view of the rapture?

    What is meant by the "10 days" of Revelation 2:10?

    Dragons in the Bible?

    Are there apostles in the Church today?

    What is the meaning of the word "chosen" in the Bible.

    The Passover.

    What are the most common Bible names?

    What is the biblical significance of the number forty?

    What does the Bible have to say about witchcraft?

    How can I protect myself from false teaching?

    Didn't the devil know he couldn't defeat God?

    Are the Masons wrong according to the Bible?

    Six Questions.

    Can the faith of "backsliders" be restored?

    Are there biblical origins to mythology?

    What does the phrase "sides of the pit" mean in Isaiah 14:15?

    Can prayer be offered in the name of the Son?

    Election and John 6:37?

    Is it valid to celebrate Christmas?

    Can you give me some information on divine names in the Bible?

    What is the significance of name changes in the Bible?

    Is faith a "gift of God"?

    Is there a "gospel of Thomas"?

    Is the nature of Man dichotomous or trichotomous?

    Will the temple be rebuilt in Jerusalem?

    Does the Bible teach a literal Millennium?

    What does the word "good" mean in Genesis?

    Who are "the dead" who "rise first" in 1st Thessalonians 4?

    Are the Greek tenses in John 7:34 correctly translated?

    Is the devil "mad" to oppose God?

    Does the Bible require supporting the pastor financially?

    How can Jesus be a man and God at the same time?

    How did people atone for intentional sin in Old Testament times?

    What is the symbolism of the Lamb of God in Revelation?

    Can you recommend some word study tools for Bible study?

    Can people who commit suicide be saved?

    Are tattoos biblical?

    Is it "ichthys" or "ichthus"?

    What is the difference between wisdom and discernment?

    Marriage of Believers and Unbelievers.

    Is hearing believing in John 6:35?

    How certain a date is 2026?

    Is Paul describing himself in Romans chapter seven?

    Is tithing required for salvation?

    What is the evidence for the "rapture"?

    Is there any validity to the "prosperity gospel"?

    Who are the "Nephilim" in Genesis chapter six?

    Church attendance.

    Is there a literal "devil"?

    What does the Bible have to say about reincarnation?

    What is the unpardonable sin?

    Believing the Bible for Spiritual Growth.

    Why was the New Testament written in Greek?

    What about those who have never heard of Christ?

    What about elders and deacons?

    Eternal Security and "sinless perfection".

    Eternal Security and "salvation by works".

    Does the Bible teach ex nihilo creation?

    When did Jesus first know He was God's Son?

    Are there prophets today?

    Despairing of life.

    How important is baptism?

    How could Christ have been three days and nights in the grave?

    Do Muslims worship the One true God?

    What can I do about spiritual fainting?


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